Showing posts with label Criticism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Criticism. Show all posts

Wednesday, 6 January 2021

Compassion

 It’s all about how sensitive you are to people around you and how often you let go of their mood swings.  Sometimes, the masks slip because there is pain. Criticizing people who actually are suffering from within is like kicking someone who is down already.

Why do we have to keep our hearts partially open for selective compassion when it is one of the greatest virtues of all times?

Surekha Kothari

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Monday, 10 December 2018

Comparison

When you criticize, you want to feel better about yourself. Or, you feel you are in a better state and therefore, can criticize others. But it is not so. Because what you criticize is deep seated within you. You have been there and haven't healed yourself. And without parts of you not being healed, there is no peace.
Comparing deprives you of peace because the very fact that you compare means you are not happy with yourself and your life as it is.
As far as complaining goes, it is evident that there is much chaos within you. You are unable to adjust to your environment and there is always some lack or the other. Where is there a question of peace ?
Peace will be within reach when you replace the three Cs with three As.
Awareness
Acceptance
Adjustment
Adapting to what is around you is the best way to go.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 25 November 2018

Self criticism

I have realized that in the name of close relationships, we give compassion but forget to reserve some of it for ourselves. And when that happens, what comes to us is criticism. Criticism from others turns into self criticism and soon, you start feeling you are not good enough. You allow people to do this to you. Because the more you give, the more they take and the more you get taken for granted.
Someone said to me that you must be more clinical in life instead of going overboard for anyone. I would have argued a few years ago. Today, I see the wisdom of the statement.
Be calm, clinical and clever; the 3 c's which must rule relationships today.
Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com