Showing posts with label Affection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Affection. Show all posts
Sunday, 13 September 2020
Sunday, 8 March 2020
Tuesday, 25 February 2020
Sunday, 24 November 2019
Emotions and pain
The common theory is that the caliber and
mettle of a human being is how he or she braves the hardships in life. This is
what we are taught. Grin and bear it, or grit your teeth. Clench your fists ...
etc.
But there is also another side to this.
Bottling up emotions and pain can have significant side effects. Sooner or
later, they could spiral into major health setbacks.
The only way you can assimilate pain of any
kind is by not letting it sink into your cellular memory. Physical pain can be
forgotten once it is treated. But emotional pain as also mental agony get
registered and continue to give pain even after the event. We have to guard
against this.
Always have avenues of releasing this kind
of pain, in whichever way, before it becomes a deep wound.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 12 September 2019
Ambitions
We do many things out of being misguided.
One of the most tragic ones is living through your children. Life often fails
to give you what you want. That is sad. But for you to force your children to
take the path you wanted to is definitely an injustice to them. Ambitions
cannot be imposed upon anyone externally. Besides, that was your life. This is
theirs.
Ironically, we repeat what our parents did
to us that are, not letting the kids have the freedom to choose, to make
independent but informed decisions.
Children who are bulldozed into deviating
from their desired goals are often angry and frustrated later in life, likewise
with children trying to wreak vengeance on behalf of their parents or loved
ones.
It is our duty to guide our kids alright,
but not coerce them and on no account, to make them into anything but wholesome
individuals.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 29 August 2019
Tuesday, 12 February 2019
The quality of the gifts
"Can love be measured by the hours in
the day?" This line from the song from the movie "Love Story" is
one of the most beautiful lines I have heard. Can love be measured, period? What
is its measure, in any relationship?
Is it the amount of time spent together? Is
it the number of gifts exchanged the quality of the gifts? Maybe, branded gifts
as a measure of love? Or, daily calls? ... I don't know. All these seem to be
very important today.
I wonder if empty hands but a heart full of
love would suffice? Would it show in the warmth of affection in my eyes? In my
smile that lights up my face? In my bear hug greeting in my travelling miles to
be with someone on a special day. In the pain I feel ....or if my day starts
and ends with someone.
I wonder at how people judge you and
consider you fit for their friendship or love. What would be that criteria?
I wonder how people measure love in its
many forms. How many forms do they see? How many are they able to see? And how
do they interpret what they see.
I wonder.......all the time.... why there
is no common benchmark for love which can sustain the peace and togetherness on
this earth.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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