Showing posts with label expectations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label expectations. Show all posts
Tuesday, 11 March 2025
Tuesday, 3 October 2023
Friday, 21 July 2023
Awareness
We have to watch our feelings
about everything and everyone. Often, we feel negative or an alarm bell goes
off within us. But we ignore it.
Instead, go into it and find out
the cause. Sometimes, it is just your expectations showing up as
disappointments. But sometimes, it can be a warning signal either to be wary or
that you are going the wrong way.
It is incredible how important
those one or two seconds of that particular warning can be. And how beneficial
to our breaking old patterns with newfound awareness. Provided we listen carefully!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 1 March 2022
Expectations
Some expectations are so unrealistic, they are often amusing if we didnt get all hot and bothered about them. There is so much ego and so many self esteem issues around that god only knows when this realisation would dawn and when working on this trait would even begin ! For it takes a lot of humility and self search to ferret out these subtle negativities from the dark corners of our minds.
Even on social media, we share so many
posts that we think will benefit our friends and us. But , there are people who
get offended for not “liking” or not crediting the person who shared that post
with us which we shared with others.
Now, twenty people might have sent the same
post and if all of them wanted to be acknowledged, how would that work ? And
they haven’t even created or written that post .
I find it amazing ! We all share whatever
we feel adds value to
Our page. Being a healer, I like to share
posts which are thought provoking and will add to our journey. That’s all.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 11 February 2022
Dependability
Humans survive on their core beliefs. If those are negative about someone, they generate hate. If they are positive, they generate caring, affection . BUT , only until such time as their core belief changes.
Therefore dependability is a quality that
goes along with commitment , not with core beliefs only because they are
changeable in nature. They are also debilitating to the self if they are not
the right ones.
We really need to be very careful with such
beliefs . They tend to hurt, result in bad karma and mar relationships.
Actually, we don’t accept people and relationships
as they are. The element of tolerance and forgiveness is missing. And I think
this is because every soul on this earth is damaged. So they talk of others
being damaged but cannot face the fact that they themselves are damaged and
don’t have enough love to give. Everything then becomes a show for the outside
world. And relationships are chosen according to what they can accept, not who
they can love despite their imperfections.
Love is the only core intrinsic to humans
but it’s purity and it’s selflessness is always a question .
It is enough to go ahead and heal yourself in every way and remain within your space, your energy, without expectations . Silence is golden as they say. Silence of the mind and heart AND the brain when it is not required for daily activity.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 11 May 2021
Crown of thorns
I have always maintained that, on long term observation, I have generally found less thinkers and more followers in the world. Perhaps, that’s why they vote bad politicians into power, just getting mesmerized by money power and flamboyance without solidity and leadership qualities.
It is truly amazing that Donald
trump should be able to hold sway over “white” America such that his followers
would actually stoop down to wreak such havoc in Washington DC. And ruin their own
reputation, meticulously laid down through many years, at least as a stable
country.
Somehow, although USA has had
its share of racial issues, THIS episode of vandalism in Washington DC has
really resulted in a bit of shame for the most powerful country in the world.
They say, to sustain power, one
should be able to temper it with benevolence, not megalomaniac tendencies.
People have great expectations
from Joe Biden: equivalent to his seniority and hopefully, maturity, too because
his inheritance is certainly not a healthy one. Just like our Indian PM
inheriting a crown of thorns.
More power to these statesmen
and praying they can reverse the separatist trends that are tearing the world
apart bit by bit earlier and very rapidly now.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 24 November 2020
Thursday, 15 October 2020
Understanding
Sometimes, life gives you a rap on your
knuckles. Many a time, our impatience with people leads to complete intolerance
and you just go away from that to look for new people. Another chance to
breathe, you tell yourself.
And then comes the funny bit! When you find
that the earlier people were angels compared to the new ones in your life.
There is always a plus and a minus.
Moral of the story: there will always be
someone better and someone worse than us, if our expectations of them are
unrealistic and not based on a proper understanding.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Sunday, 22 July 2018
Sunday, 15 April 2018
Thursday, 15 March 2018
Thursday, 28 September 2017
Thursday, 10 August 2017
Belief system
In
this country, it is no surprise that people are so divided. Their individual
conditioning is not based on a common yardsticks. Every religion has a separate
rules book and rituals. And although we may link all religions to one source,
is it so simple?
The
environment in a Christian home, a Hindu home and a Muslim home will always
have different energies. Energies are so subtle that they can be felt even if
one is not very sensitive. The thoughts, the way of speaking, actions, cultural
orientation etc.
I
speak of religion as a priority because our societies are formed around
religions...religious sects and cults. All of these claim to teach tolerance,
acceptance and love but strangely enough, they succeed in doing just the opposite.
The evidence is staring at us each day. Groupism on belief systems taught and practiced
because of having a common teacher or Guru is seen everywhere. Nothing wrong so
far. You have to draw inspiration from some elevated platform.
The
problem arises when each group thinks they are the best and they are right in
their beliefs. Therefore, by default, the others may not be so right. How can
they be when there is only one type of "right" per group? According
to them, of course. This attitude magnifies the differences and so,
similarities recede into the background when actually, these are the ones that
bind people together.
We
need knowledge beyond the "taught" knowledge and that can only come
through personal practice and experience by exposure to all kinds of people and
their ways of thinking and doing things. And by putting in work on yourself
consistently. No guru or teacher can experience anything on your behalf. They
can guide you in the right direction though.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 1 August 2017
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