It is amazing how we gradually develop a
lifestyle on how others function and how they want us to function, pretty often
like them, to form a “like minded” group. There is nothing “like minded” about
this, because the urge to belong somewhere takes away the “mind” . Otherwise,
we would not get led away but in fact, would lead ourselves into a more healthy space... until one fine
day,you realise the futility of it all. But now, it becomes very hard to
reverse a road well travelled , which sadly, never led to the destination that
the soul would have chosen.
It is a misnomer that if we choose over all
health of mind and body as a priority, that we would become isolated. Yes,
there would definitely be habits which would change. But a realignment by the
universe is constantly happening. Everything finds its level if we let
ourselves get help from it.
I am aware that even one habit is difficult
to break. Because it has taken years of a repeated pattern to create it. Our
mind also , along the way, has developed crutches to happiness. It rules us in
a big way and we think WE are taking the decisions . Not so ! We are being led.
This is how , in extreme habit formation,
addiction happens. When you can’t do without something because , that
“something” gives you a false , temporary feeling of the “feel good” factor .
And so, as an example, liquor is taken to relax. Why not meditation ?
Late nights and partying are a symbol of
being cool and feeling happy. Why not getting up early sometimes, and chanting
instead ?
Meeting friends through the day fills our
lives . Why not try being your own friend for a change and contemplating on why
, after all this “full” life, you are not happy still ?
Transformation is difficult because it
results in huge shifts in the mind. Because we actually start controlling it
and taking informed decisions for our lives. There may be a price to pay in
terms of losing some people and some group activities . But, this kind of “
losing” has astounding pluses for the individual…..
What lacks is human will based on awareness
. If I don’t know what is good for me, my life will be over without ever
attempting to see where it could have gone, with a little courage and faith . A
healthy , spiritual life is a choice each one of us makes.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
