Self-Seeking

 I really feel very strongly that humans are so needy all the time that the societies have, over the years, declined into “contacts” for self fulfilment, without trust but with plenty of suspicion. We never needed to play games earlier. We said it as it was. We never left room for doubt. And the result was uplifting. Trust laden with respect and affection even.

Truth was the first principle taught and lies were punished. These lessons were never forgotten by some of us. I agree compromises are a necessary part of life. But I do have a quarrel with the polluted intentions with which we compromise today.

Intention us everything as I see it. Some of us have become so self-seeking that we have even stopped feeling guilty about what we say and do.

We might excuse ourselves for the small lies but it does not get condoned in the eyes of the divine energy. It should prick us but it doesn’t! Sadly! So, we really don’t know the value of honoring ourselves., of respecting ourselves. Yes, it is a tough path today, when truth gets disembodied all the time. But the good news is, you do start connecting with the purest divine energy and unexpected things begin to happen in your life.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

 I hear now they are busy researching how to add emotions to robots. That IS amusing. Know why? Because humans are not using their own hearts and emotions at all, but ironically, they are feeling a need for emotional exchanges. So they are replicating themselves. Strange!

It’s like keeping dogs and showering all your love there and holding back that love in conflict with human beings. So, giving is natural but the ego doesn’t allow human to human love the way animal lovers shower love unconditionally on their pets.

If a dog bites you, you will look at it with love, even reprimand it lovingly but take the anti-rabies willingly. God forbid if a “close” family / friend were to dare to advise you out of love, you would lose a relationship forever.

Fear of loss rules us and it is the one significant cause for the “sweet nothings” we shower irrespective of the way we feel. AND compromise what we hold very dear if we need those people.

I agree life is an adjustment but to what extent? To the extent that you lose yourself in the bargain? It is indeed a work of great courage to hold your principles and righteousness in place whatever the consequences.

Surekha Kothari

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Trust and Faith

 I wonder what all this fight within and without, all the conflict, the rat race to that illusory and non-existent place called “the top” is all about. It seems to alter intrinsic human behavior. And not in a good way.

Granted, it is great to be relevant. Wonderful to be recognized. Euphoric if your name is in the neon lights!

Then what? After that? We all have a little void within which we are desperately trying to understand. To me, it is that core that does not belong to this world. It is that spiritual core that knows the extent of our earthly journey. We try to ignore it in our commitment to winning races which can never be won because there is always someone below and someone above you.

I have seen famous people cry alone. The higher they go, the lonelier it is . Emotions going haywire at what compromises you may have had to make in your values and principles so that you can have a million followers on social media. Popularity kick!

Please have more followers but for the right reasons, when your work has spoken for you and you don’t have to succumb to rigged awards and followers to gain some empty publicity for yourself.

Life is much, much vaster. The more you want, the more you will want. Poor Satiation levels can only be counteracted by genuine contentment and understanding that you will always get what is ordained for you.

Somehow, we feel irrelevant unless we are the talk of the town. Again, after that what? Do we become better humans after that? Do we suddenly start understanding concepts of right living?

The most unaccepted fact of life is death! The mad scrambles to defeat age and to refrain from entering the “vaanprastha ashram” and defying the natural progression of life is so self-defeating if we can see that for ourselves.

That is why the society is devoid of trust and faith. It is said that faith is more fragile than love. We lip read most orators who speak of the unseen, inner world and continue our cudgels with our ambitions and greed.

Aptly said, that unless we personally reach this point in our thought processes, nothing will sink in anyway.

Surekha Kothari

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Compromise

 I have realised that we aught not to ever compromise the lightness of our being. For anyone or anything.

We tend to become heavy whenever we deal with emotions , triggered by our love concern for others or even by our own experiences based on our perceptions of ourselves… which trigger our own reactions. At such times, it is important to step back immediately and examine the quality of those incoming thoughts.

Yes, we are mostly reacting. Not responding. A response is a thoughtfully created effect to a cause. This is what we need. We don’t need a trigger for our negativity to show . We should know that THAT does not come from a good place. It is in fact, an indication for which spaces we need to clean up within us.

Like, our constant need to be judgemental about others when we need that finger pointed towards ourselves. Clean ourselves to better our image in our own mirror. It’s a single point agenda.

Surekha Kothari

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Life Experience

Often, one reaches a stage when all experiences run through you like a film. It is an overwhelming experience, to say the least. You have loved and lost. You have cried and laughed. You have compromised and beaten yourself up. You have been just and unjust. You have been cowardly and brave , calm and angry. You have needed and given to the needy. You have prayed and complained. Sometimes, you have lost and then found.

What is this movie that we are living and which runs our lives ? Is it a dream or reality ? Is everything really happening or will we wake up and find everything has disappeared and all our crying and laughing , depressions and cudgels with life were naught ! Just a bubble that could burst anytime. Like the illusion of standing on a pile of sand which could slide down and topple you any minute.

What then is so very important that we can become so twisted sometimes and so wanting ? Still looking for so many answers . I don't know how many lifetimes it will take for us to find our souls.

Surekha Kothari

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Understanding of life

When you are depressed, you need someone to talk to; someone who’s kind and understanding words are all it takes to make you feel less toxic. More so, if the environment you live in is a toxic one, an impersonal one, a non- caring one.

Someone asked me, which life is a better one, the one of compromise or the one of loneliness? But aren't we all lonely in some way? And don't we all live a life if compromise in one way or another? How would you quantify or qualify either?

But if you are compromising because you don't want to feel lonely, then you are in trouble. People can be like quicksands, and those that are solid too, have to go away one day.

How much mental strength and understanding of life must one have then, to absorb experiences in the right way and decide what would work and what would not and yet having solutions do not necessarily translate into action. There could be many, many obstacles on the way and one must have the time, will and energy to overcome them.

Surekha Kothari

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Compromise

We know ourselves more by the independent choices we make. Compromised choices often are reluctant choices that sometimes leave a trace of anger. "Why did I agree to make that choice? I don't like that feeling very much. I don't feel good", especially when the results might not be palatable.

Well, it is normal to feel this way. We are all free spirits who , by nature, don't want controls. And yet, we have them everywhere ever since we are born. In childhood, they are thrust on us because we don't know any better. And soon, this becomes routine until you start asking "why".

When you make your own choices, you take ownership of those choices, whether they work out for you or not. That is the right learning process. There is no chance of throwing the blanket at anyone else here because you were solely responsible for the choice. And actually, it's good because that's how we grow.

Surekha Kothari

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Judgments

When the mind is untouched by pollution, all human chatter fades into insignificance. When Jesus Christ can be nailed to the cross, this world is certainly not the right place to be in. We are all here to find peace in a cruel world, detachment in an illusory world and courage to eliminate the superficial layers in order to reach the soul.

People who embark on this journey seem to appear to artificial people like pretentious drama artists. But actually, stripping every layer of polluted skin, peeling away memories is painful to say the least but cannot be seen by those who struggle to survive on the strength of pleading that others approve of them. They have yet to discover their true spirituality.

"Avidya" or ignorance until it is seen and accepted as such, leads to illusory perceptions of being knowledgeable and often results in arrogance and scant respect even for the seniors in the family and society.

From "Ram Rajya" to this, the cycle continues. New scripts will be written in every phase when the old lose their interest quotient. New characters will come up to play the roles of "family" and "society". And value judgments will be given each time. Many will continue to get affected and many will learn their lessons from experiencing their karma and move on to another world.

Remember, as the candle shortens, its flame burns brighter. Similarly, those who get smaller in spirituality speak the loudest , perhaps like empty vessels making much noise... in fact, much conflict and chaos.

Surekha Kothari

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State of abundance

Life works very logically. When you want something, it keeps you in want. When you feel abundant, abundance comes to you. Strange? Not really.

See...we are all about memories. Unpleasant and pleasant. Negative and positive. So, when we live within those negative memories and are not happy, we feel a lack, and we cut our cord with the completeness which is the Divine. Of which we are a part. It is like saying, I am born in my family but I am not a part of it. So, I will not do what they do.

So... a lack cannot be filled up unless you recognize that you don't have any lack actually. The Divine, your source, is complete. You CANNOT have a lack. It is only a perception.

In the second scenario, you feel abundance. Because you understand the truth about who you are and where you belong. So, nothing transient should be able to take away your abundance. However much you try and empty an ocean with a cup, you can't. It will always be complete. And when you don't react to the world, you live in a perpetual state of abundance.

Surekha Kothari

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Experiment

Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ....a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while...it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.

Surekha Kothari

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