Productivity

 To be productive in any field, the motto should be: “plan the work and work the plan”.

There are people who cannot stay with one plan. They plan and then they change the plan. They make a new one and change it again.

This speaks of a very confused and conflicting mind.

The inability to stay with a plan and the constant search for a “better” plan ultimately gets nothing done.

It is probably better to just be given a plan to execute. Someone leads, others follow.

So, conflict and confusion are products of situations where choices are given. And it takes wisdom to make an informed choice.

That’s why we probably see more followers than thinkers.

Surekha Kothari

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Evolution

 

I wonder when you reach a point when you are able to streamline your life. When the transition is happening, it could be confusing. You might opt for something and then opt out of it. You might be really enthused one minute and lose interest the next.

One tag which you might acquire may be “erratic”. But no! It could very well be a streamlining process active within you that is leaving behind old ideas, old patterns and learning new ways to evolve.

I have never believed in tags pinned on others. We really are not qualified to judge. Are we? Because we are constantly changing, or so I would like to think.

Surekha Kothari

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Gratitude

 

Why do we go to a temple or a church ? There are no two replies to this. We make the effort to go because we feel good. We say there are beautiful vibrations of so many people having prayed there for years. The older the temple or church or any other religious place, the better !

We need to visit these houses of worship with the awareness that we are actually responding through the inner deity present with in us which connects to the deity present in a sanctum sanctorium. This gives a new expansion to prayer.

And yet, that awareness does not stay with us . The world draws you in the moment you leave the shrine. This is what we need to train our minds for. Make your day an extension of your prayers. We only have the present moment. So, we need to use every present moment to keep the divine in the forefront so that we are able to look at every person and situation in a positive light. To know that it comes for a purpose and to nudge us to move towards the divine presence within us.

I love this line, which comes from a quote by Melodie Beattie:

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend."

And I would add this thought — that without gratitude, you can turn any paradise into hell.

Without gratitude, every choice you ever made will always feel like the wrong choice.

Without gratitude, summers will always be too hot; winters will always be too cold.

The music will always be too loud, the movie will always suck, the teenagers will always be too rude.

Without gratitude, people who vote or worship differently from you will always be monsters in your eyes.

Without gratitude, you will always feel you were born into the wrong family.

Without gratitude, the waitress will always be too slow, and you will always get the worst seat on the bus. Without gratitude, every driver on the road except you is an idiot.

Without gratitude, life is A Misery.

The alchemy of all alchemies —is gratitude.

Even if we learn nothing else, we must learn how to say THANK YOU and Stay blessed forever

Surekha Kothari

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State of confusion

 

Very often, we are not sure of ourselves. A state of confusion , perhaps. Be clear in your intentions. WHY you are doing what you are doing. Very often, we do things grudgingly and are not happy doing them. This is going against one’s real self. There really isn’t any need. Honesty to ourselves is most important. Keeps the head and heart clear.

At some stage, all of us will realise that after going around gaining many experiences , we ultimately come back to ourselves. And if we don’t, then we have a long way to travel in our journey.

Surekha Kothari

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Journey

 

The day we realise that we have to love imperfect beings as imperfect beings, we will stop judging others. If, during the ascension process, we have to leave certain things behind, they were never ours to take with us in any case. Our journey is alone. But there is fear of being alone. This fear is the starting point of all issues and all confusion in our lives. Because it removes love from our radar. When love recedes, so does the light. And then we end up groping in the darkness of fear, trying to crawl

out of its clutching hold.

Why not let love in, in the first place ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Brilliant mind

 

It is a fact that India has the most brilliant minds. They are in the highest places worldwide, wherever merit is recognised  and not negated based on colour, caste, creed and religion.

In current times, the one property Indians lack is a sense of national

Pride, oblivious of what the world , the media or others might say. And because of this lack, some of us fall prey to deliberately inciting opinions against us. We have little loyalty so, are quick to believe the negative.

Take a mother. Say anything against her kids and you have made an enemy for life. India is our motherland but we, her children, would abuse her , mutilate her and treat her in a way no child should treat their mother.

This sensitivity and loyalty that we have lost has also manifested in children not treating their parents too well. When values are lost, confusion and fragmentation has to rule. Instead of pulling our weight in making the world safe for everyone, we are at a perpetual war within our fragmented and divided selves. How can the external world be any other way ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Human emotions

The first casualty in the onslaught of the virtual world is human emotions. You can see it happening everywhere around you. And if you happen to be in the realm of the 60s and 70s, then the transition may be very apparent and not very palatable to many too bad if you feel that way. Also, ultimately, it doesn’t matter because the seniors are now guests of this world for a limited number of years.

The second casualty is time too much preoccupation with the laptops, iPads, cell phones and the like. If you whattsapp a family member, you might get a quicker reply than if you were to make a phone call. Also, please remember! No more sentiments like,” I called because I simply wanted to hear your voice”. You wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s precious time by calling now, would you?

And you can imagine what the third casualty would be? Yes, the depth of relationships. I think the word “casualty” must have been coined from “casual”, as in, a casual approach to everyone and everything.

Be like a computer. No emotions required. The computer doesn’t understand them. An Alexa or Siri can answer any question in the world but you can’t find a shoulder on it to rest your head and cry. Tears and fears may not be found in a virtual world and would show you “no result” in a couple of years.

Research says human beings will soon live for 150 and more years very soon. Virtually impossible in our book but getting there, we are told.

Virtually no one I know would agree to extend living so long. Not if all we have are robots to communicate with. There might not be any “real” people left by then. What a thought!

Surekha Kothari

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Energies to challenge

I was talking to a friend about how stress can pile up on you because of your vulnerability to some relationships. These people know which buttons to press to make you go a little crazy sometimes some contentious relationships which can’t be severed and can’t be tolerated. It is as if two people are just waiting with their fangs out, ready to pounce on each other. And even if this sounds funny, it is really not, when you are within the situation.

Change this and you can get the ownership of yourself back. Changing this means changing and transforming the feelings that induce and lead to the war like environment. Not allow anyone to take away your choice of response and turn it into an angry or frustrated rejoinder.

We can’t smoulder from within and keep a peaceful front for too long AND retain our health as well. So, either we have to completely get away from such people or decide that they are not getting anywhere with you. That you remain unaffected even amused.

The best way to change your energies is to challenge yourself to become immune and get your control back. And hope no one thinks that this is a minor task and can be accomplished with just a “hey presto! “

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Acceptance

Kindness! It is more important than love. When you are kind to one another, you build up a reservoir of positive energy between you which can be then used towards those who find it difficult to be kind...people who have faced much unkindness and have become hard and hardened.

I have understood that you can be kind to everyone without engaging your emotions to judge them. That's when you fail to be kind...when you sit in judgment.

It requires a certain acceptance of habits or ways that you may not find palatable by your standards (which is understandable). But it is not necessary that people should be like you. It IS essential to view them in their own context of their upbringing, disappointments, thought patterns, experiences etc and understand why they are who they are. Once this happens, kindness may come more easily.

We feel being kind takes away something from us because we are constantly looking for gratitude, acknowledgement of the kindness and more. We often feel people have to be beholden to us. That is really not the way it is. Gratitude is the business of the receiver and not the giver of kindness. So, let us not reverse the formula by giving and then also expecting. This takes away from the giver.

Let the receiver evolve through the right practice of gratitude for it is his on us in the spiritual order.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Depression

Depression should not be allowed to step close to us. It has many, many repercussions. If you examine the reasons, one of the foremost ones would be the pain of unfulfilled expectations, especially of unrequited love.

As we know, no man is an island. But in developing relationships, there comes a tipping point which turns the relationship into one of dependency, into a need of a crutch. Automatically then, this is the start of the end of the relationship. Healthy bonds work differently. They can work on mutual dependency better than one stronger and one weaker link.

There is every need to strengthen our backbone to stand upright, even if to walk alone. Inner strength compensates for the presence or perception of many lacks. And it would be within the preview of wisdom to be aware that we journey alone from life to life. So, holding onto to any form of crutch is going to be nothing short of meaningless. Then why the depression?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Karma

Karma simplified! The easiest way to define karma is "what goes around comes around". But is it so easy? That is only a part of it. Let us be aware of the collective nature of karma besides individual ones.

The popular saying, “a father's sins come onto the children" is not meant lightly. One person's actions can involve many people around them. Like the AGHORA book on karma talks about an example of racing where so many people's karma is joined together...the jockey, the bookie, the people who bet etc.

Can you imagine the level of awareness and wisdom one has to develop to experience the old karma while refraining from performing new harmful ones?

We often feel so much intensity of emotion that actions are rooted in feelings, sometimes imbalanced ones.

Let us examine our thoughts very minutely to control karmic fallouts in our current lives.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari