Kindness!
It is more important than love. When you are kind to one another, you build up
a reservoir of positive energy between you which can be then used towards those
who find it difficult to be kind...people who have faced much unkindness and
have become hard and hardened.
I
have understood that you can be kind to everyone without engaging your emotions
to judge them. That's when you fail to be kind...when you sit in judgment.
It
requires a certain acceptance of habits or ways that you may not find palatable
by your standards (which is understandable). But it is not necessary that
people should be like you. It IS essential to view them in their own context of
their upbringing, disappointments, thought patterns, experiences etc and
understand why they are who they are. Once this happens, kindness may come more
easily.
We
feel being kind takes away something from us because we are constantly looking
for gratitude, acknowledgement of the kindness and more. We often feel people
have to be beholden to us. That is really not the way it is. Gratitude is the
business of the receiver and not the giver of kindness. So, let us not reverse
the formula by giving and then also expecting. This takes away from the giver.
Let
the receiver evolve through the right practice of gratitude for it is his on us
in the spiritual order.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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