Sometimes, we carry the burden
of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative,
living with ourselves, is scary for many.
I advocate an experiment. Just
make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV,
books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do
it? Think, meditate, introspect ....a sense of restlessness and even fear will
grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories,
insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.
And that is the very reason
why it is essential to be silent every once in a while...it is a kind of mental
and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental
strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in
relationships?
Because your energy is
depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will
understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the
transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and
time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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