Silence

There are daily stimuli and our responses to them. But we seldom have the awareness of that minuscule pause between them. That pause goes unnoticed because of our lack of awareness. And therefore, that pause which is actually there for us to respond with thought and wisdom becomes a reaction. Only because the ego just flies in to that pause and takes over to change our would have been response to a hasty reaction.

Naturally, if an object comes hurtling towards you, you will instinctively change course to avoid it. But when it comes to a stimulus coming from objects of our dislike, we retaliate instead of changing course at that time. We prefer a collision, a clash also, more than our peace.

This is really strange when we think of it. Two responses to similar stimuli.

People think silence is weakness but it can be the most powerful tool in our evolution. We don’t have to respond each time. Silence works very well. It gives clarity to our thoughts so much so that when we act, it becomes an act of wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

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Saturation Point

 All these years, having been in denial and argued and vented, finally, truth has dawned! Everything happens for a reason. Everything was meant to be. We thought we were taking the decisions but, was it so? Really? Were our reactions valid then?

Actually, what is meant to stay, stays. And what is meant to get over, just gets over. WE reach a saturation point in a lot of the cases. And in some, the choice is not ours.

And yet, all our lives, we fight and stress, and refuse to let go to move forward. We forget that karma is at work constantly. Our debts call out . Also our credits are interspersed with those debts we must pay. When we experience the joy of good karma, we forget easily. What remains and sustains is the unpleasant memories.

As the wise have wisely said, cut thoughts. Cut memories. They are the source of all the attachment and egos at play in our lives. And when there are no thoughts, it is automatic surrender to a higher power. This is the ultimate in our journey, isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

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Memories

 Whenever we go through an unpleasant experience, we tell ourselves” I don’t deserve this”.

Now, with a new perspective, i have started thinking,” why do you think you DON’T deserve this?” Everything is meant to be. We don’t know which karma related issue brought into our lives what we think we don’t deserve.

And this thought takes me along a new line of thought. There is always a reason. Nothing is random in this world.

If we don’t like something, only we have the power to change it. No one else can change anything for us. That’s how it is.

Take charge of your thoughts, your reactions, your mind. Change/ improve habits, do whatever it takes to clear your energies so that you can help others.

Jealousy, hatred, intolerance gets us nowhere except into a bottomless pit.

If you read about the reformers that have walked this earth, you will see that their paths were strewn with thorns laid out by the selfish and the ignorant. But these reformers never practiced hatred… they remained compassionate.

It is the way of the world that if you throw brickbats at people instead of love and compassion, you will start a chain of cause and effects beneficial to no one.

I am amazed by the stories of our apostles, who, in the face of personal adversities, reformed the lives of so many, on the strength of their compassion and teachings, more so, teaching by example.

Buddha transformed a murderer like Angulimala. And this is only one story.

I believe these reformers had the power to extract the venom of misguided thoughts from the minds of people. We all struggle only with our reactionary thoughts and bad memories. We have the power to delete them with a strong and determined intention. Our minds react from our lower selves, to petty incidents because perhaps, the mind has become a vessel polluted by negative reactions again and again over a long period of time. To extricate ourselves from this quagmire requires a super realization of its futility and a strong and consistent determination.

And mind you, we don’t have to ill treat people and hurt them to teach them lessons. We can do so lovingly too. But do we?

And then watch your growth!

Surekha Kothari

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Comparison

 Sometime in life, you have to develop your sense of peace, which is yours alone.

Whatever you have is enough.

Whatever your needs are will be met by the universe.

HE will decide when you receive, what and how much you receive.

The futility of thoughts can take away from peace.

Comparisons are odious, to say the least.

Moving forward is the key and the tendency to JUST BE!

Surekha Kothari

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Realization

 It is a natural human tendency to look at the outside world and, according to our value systems, find others to be lacking or otherwise. The catch phrase here is” according to our values systems”.

The entire judgement factor stems from this. We all build up our own value systems according to who we are and what our experiences are. Different things work for different people. At different times and we keep changing as wisdom dawns.

Each of us therefore, has to give each one their due. There is really no need to invade someone else’s space with analysis and criticism.

Anyway, criticism borders on “I am better than you” aspect which is not quite right. And you will see the evidence of this in the fact that people you criticize have their own friends and followers. Evidently then, what they live with are not wrong principles but different from yours. You may not agree but that’s ok. You don’t need to harbor any feelings about that. Letting go of what is not compatible with your energy is vital to growth.

At the end of the day, we need to recognize that each one has a different journey and the universe has the capacity to hold and protect all of us.

Yes, we do have to keep learning and evolving till we teach the truth about ourselves. But that is the extent and the ultimate for our journey, as it is for the others. How soon we will reach that point of realization, depends on our thinking, understanding and reflecting on ourselves. And then proceeding to work on ourselves as we go along.

“Live and let live”. Try and live well and with awareness of our thoughts, our actions and what we need to cleanse from our huge bank of memories.

Our memories spark our likes and dislikes. We need to keep away from both.

Surekha Kothari

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Practice

 

There is never a time when we can build up a case in favour of pettiness or meanness. Ultimately, the onus comes back to us. OUR thoughts, our reactions, our prejudices.

I understand perfectly that we have faced all this and more from other people. But, after much churning and trying out all options , it ultimately OUR choice: to retaliate and give it as good as we get, or to look at such people kindly and know there is something within that have not come to terms with.

That effort, though very tough, will pay rich dividends. It is a daily practice. And will have terrific blocks to overcome. Because the moment you make such an intention, the universe will start testing you with irritating episodes coming your way to see how strong is your resolve.

These are enough to get frustrated and leave the practice. But better to continue the practice. Otherwise, no results will be forthcoming.

Surekha Kothari

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Experience

 

Today, I am This. My experiences from all lives , some of which are experienced in this life, are sacrosanct, good or bad , as both teach me lessons if I know how to learn the lessons inherent in them.

This minute, I can connect with my consciousness to understand where I am not thinking right. The past, the thoughts , the reminder of the unpleasant are all leeches which one has to pluck out and throw away, however painful the process might be for the body and the mind. Is there anyone who can like the leeches gripping you for ever ? No.

But we do have the others in leech form that are painful and agonising but we seem to revel in our pain. Very difficult to understand ! Still more difficult when they come from outside . Not that self inflicted pain is more reasonable ! Every pain is a choice and has a solution.

There is just not enough understanding and therefore, error in prioritising. It is like sitting down and waiting for the lion coming after you, to swallow you.

When “I” identifies with “me”, we are weakened by that ego which can be very destructive if we don’t watch out.

So , we need to use the power of NOW to get wise.

Surekha Kothari

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Personality

 When abuse becomes virtually a religion, manipulation becomes your second skin. What a pity that there are people who would be callous enough to abuse their own parents , let alone outsiders ! That anyone can be so self absorbed that all the filters in behaviour disappear.

We speak of upbringing , sensibilities, grace, loyalty and all

Those fine endowments of our personality which come from

The old world. But where IS that world ?

Thoughts of bygone eras are only memories , memories that bring you misery in the wake of the current scenario where , unless you are diplomatic with “family” also , more often than not, you have to pay a huge price with being persecuted. Because love is not a currency that works anymore. It is only the art of superficiality that gets you everywhere. But ultimately, it is manipulation because it does not come from the heart.

I still have the ability to feel a sense of shock, a disbelief , when I see such episodes being enacted. It gets difficult to then focus on the beautiful side of life . The ugliness is too consuming ! At least for a while !

Surekha Kothari

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Attitudes in life

 When we get tired of sitting in one position, we change the angle . When we are sleeping at night, we change sides frequently. All this in the name of comfort…

But, when it comes to negative thoughts, why don’t we change them into positive ? Why are we unable to change the angle here ? Why do we look at only one side and let it disturb us ?

 Isn’t really it odd ? More so, because we are disturbed when we don’t want to be. And yet, even for our own sakes, we won’t do anything about it. We will hold on, and keep holding on to every burden , carry it on our heads, refuse to off load it, and on top of it, cry foul ! Blame others and situations for our wrong attitudes in life !

Where then is the flow, the harmony in our lives ? Try walking in a river with a huge burden on your head ! You can’t even walk straight, let alone swim without a risk of drowning with that heavy burden like a weight pulling you down !

Teaching oneself to be sensible, even selfish in the right way would be to teach them just two words : LET GO !!!

Surekha Kothari

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Obsessive energy

 

The traditional thought is that this world needs thinkers . True, but with a clause attached , that they should also be positive thinkers. Otherwise, I would be happy with seeing positive people rather than thinkers gone wrong.

Isnt it amazing that convictions wear the garb of brain washing ever so often ? Millions are being brainwashed by a few distorted minds harbouring unholy intentions but speak so convincingly of a case for destruction that thinkers themselves are swept away into misled convictions !

This is the most dangerous trend yet because the darkness of such obsessive energies can engulf the world and wipe all goodness and all virtue clean .

At what point does such a  phase change ? And after how much devastation does good sense finally dawn ? And when do peace and tolerance finally prevail over self inflicted pain and turmoil within individuals that spreads like wild fire and envelops the masses ?

I wish someone knew !

Surekha Kothari

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Observation

 In life, we must learn to tread with a lot of awareness. Just as we breathe , so must we understand its value. It is the elixir of life but how much we take it for granted !

Breath awareness each moment can change our lives. People meditate and notice thoughts reducing over a period of time. Simultaneously, the breath becomes calm and slow. There is a strong connection there.

Thoughts leading to restlessness , anger, and such negativities accelerate the speed of breath and agitated mind results in an agitated breath.

If you start watching your breath, you would be in an almost meditative state through the day. Moreover, thoughts would automatically be controlled and so would emotions.

The trick is to observe everything happening within : the breath, thoughts , feelings, emotions … everything !

But breath is God. And to feel it each minute is the answer to many an issue of the mind.

Surekha Kothari

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