Confidence

 The web of relationships is intricate and before you know it, your inner peace begins to depend on external validation. Seeking approval to cultivate your own identity becomes vital to your well-being.

Ground your sense of self-worth in your own values, not in the opinion of others. This does not mean you let go of relationships. It only means you respect who you are and your faith in yourself does not get shaken each time someone chooses to disrespect you. Your value for yourself comes from within you.

And external validation also gives others power over you. You need to reclaim that power and keep it with yourself.

Are you living in alignment with your own values and principles? If you are, that is all the confidence you need. All the validation you need.

Your life will get stuck if you don’t actually walk the path. Life will always have challenges but if truth be told, if you take charge of your life, you will be surprised how much you can achieve.

We are so much more than our minds and intellect, our ego and our sub conscious. That one consciousness that watches our lives as witness consciousness is what we need to satisfy. It is the weighing scale that balances us if we are aware of it. Many aren’t, unfortunately.

Living a life replete with self-created toxicity and negativity will just amount to a wasted life where we could have become brilliant versions of ourselves but got stuck in a quagmire in which we became so comfortable that we never thought we should extricate ourselves to find ownership of ourselves.

Overcome your own person rather than someone else, which comes out of thinking others are better. Not true. Self-doubt is a big culprit.

No one really cares as much as you think they do. They are busy dealing with their own challenges, their negativities.

Think! How much have you feared the criticism and judgement of others and have tried to fit into a mould someone else created for you!  

When will you have the courage to pursue something meaningful just for yourself?

Surekha Kothari

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State of Lightness

 

To reach the state of lightness of being, you have to pass through so much heaviness of being that it finally exhausts you! And finally, when you can take no more, you let it drop! You just let go! That moment, you experience that lightness, that freedom from the inflated baggage that had taken over your life.

The problem is with the mind. It holds only one thought in each moment and if not changed quickly, deepens that thought until it becomes baggage. This is more so with the baggage of negative thoughts because they are the ones that give pain and discomfort.

Each day, you train yourself to let go. Some days, you can and others are not so successful but you need to go on trying. And one day, it will clear.

Surekha Kothari

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Self-improvement

 Self-improvement starts with the surrender of arrogance, ego and cultivating humility. We are constantly becoming aware of what we should be giving up to gain a foot in the door of heaven, so to speak.

Spirituality implies a gradual elimination of the unwanted that we have wanted all our lives, in our ignorance.

Yes, it could shake comfort levels. It could isolate in a small way and later, as your practices increase, in a big way also. But this kind of isolation does not necessarily take you away from people. It may lead to a dropping of people whose energies are not on par with yours at that time.

There is however, no cause for any lament! That is a natural phenomenon. It WILL happen.

Ultimately, this is not a loss but a gain. A gain to strengthening your energy to be directed towards a higher awareness and higher goals.

Surekha Kothari

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Adversity

 With every so called adversity, rejuvenate yourself. Life is to be lived, not to be lamented over. You can either give energy to your dark memories and experiences or create your own happy space with the many cherished memories. And create new ones.

I don’t know if anyone of us is infallible! It is for each of us to rewire ourselves wherever and whenever any thought, speech or action produces discomfort. And sure, it happens to us all.

At such times, look within immediately and go to the root of the discomfort. It is always within you. Not outside

The moment you gloat about your success; life confronts you with yet another challenge. So, be aware of the blessings upon you and live in gratitude.

Surekha Kothari

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Attitudes in life

 When we get tired of sitting in one position, we change the angle . When we are sleeping at night, we change sides frequently. All this in the name of comfort…

But, when it comes to negative thoughts, why don’t we change them into positive ? Why are we unable to change the angle here ? Why do we look at only one side and let it disturb us ?

 Isn’t really it odd ? More so, because we are disturbed when we don’t want to be. And yet, even for our own sakes, we won’t do anything about it. We will hold on, and keep holding on to every burden , carry it on our heads, refuse to off load it, and on top of it, cry foul ! Blame others and situations for our wrong attitudes in life !

Where then is the flow, the harmony in our lives ? Try walking in a river with a huge burden on your head ! You can’t even walk straight, let alone swim without a risk of drowning with that heavy burden like a weight pulling you down !

Teaching oneself to be sensible, even selfish in the right way would be to teach them just two words : LET GO !!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Destination

 

Life’s experiences take you into the subtleties of behavioural pattens which unravel the deepest psychological aspects of people and of yourself, too, if you are transparently honest with yourself.

Otherwise, we tend to skim the surface of life itself and maybe, also come to the conclusion comfortably that ignorance is bliss. There are so many ways of living and who else can say what is right or not right living for you but yourself ?

Life is such a creative process that its essence is just becoming, not reaching , for there is no destination while in this transient world.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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