Showing posts with label Quality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Quality. Show all posts
Thursday, 5 September 2024
Friday, 5 May 2023
Monday, 17 October 2022
Integrity
We
can only guarantee the quality of our own humaneness and integrity. And uphold
a certain standard of goodness. Just as
a flower bloom and has a sweet aroma, so should humans retain their fragrance
even when people try to take it away. The only way you can lose it is if you
are willing to part with it. And if you are, then you are paying a very heavy
price.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 24 June 2022
Monday, 4 October 2021
Wednesday, 23 September 2020
Saturation Level
When you indulge in excesses, sooner or
later, you will reach a saturation point, enough to turn away from that
activity for good. And I don’t mean addictions. Addictions kind of drag you
down and generally, have no satiation nor saturation levels.
Certain activities have the same
deterioration quality that perhaps, repeated jokes that get stale over a period
of time.
When that happens, it is time to graduate
into more interesting activities. And if you can’t do this and get stuck out of
habit to what has stalled, you will be breathing the pollution into your life
without realizing why you are falling sick. We need to explore more facets of
life, like we did as kids.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 3 September 2020
Relationships
Some relationships end with a lot of
bitterness. There is always blame in such cases, Very often, failing to
communicate often, failing to understand. Also, karmic parting sometimes as
they say, “not meant to be”. And each time, there is anger and pain worse
still, the inability to forgive.
All through these years, I have felt that
the hardest thing to do is to forgive. Because there is a lot of anger, a lot
of resentment and an equal amount of pain, even agony. And we so wallow in it
and us so blame the other for it that we lose the rational quality within us.
It is always good to give time, even if our
paths are different, and after that space is given and taken, talk things over
to clear the air. Because feelings had been strong earlier, it would be best to
seek an amicable closure from both sides. This way, you retain some good will
towards each other. Why not be at peace?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 11 February 2020
Thursday, 31 October 2019
Happy energy
Who is the enemy? Over a lifetime, we develop
enmity with a few people extreme word and also a deeper form of dislike. We
often remark,” With such friends, you don’t need enemies”. And you begin to
stay away from these few people, get restless when you see them or have to be
within their vicinity.
But, who is the real enemy here? The actual
enemy is within. It is that negative patch of dislike that WE harbor for
someone. And because we have not been able to cleanse it, it reflects in the others.
Just as, if you hate your face in the mirror and try to hit it, it is your hand
that will bleed. And once you heal your hand, the mirror reflection will also
show a healed hand.
Hence, don’t look for external enemies. The
enemy within you is your memory reactions. That’s all. Good to
Just let go of those memories or transmute
them into happy energy.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 1 April 2019
Pile up
Right from the time we become adults, we
accumulate and hoard. Then, in the sunset years, we need to declutter and give
away. Similarly, we build larger homes and then shrink them into apartments. We
know that everything has to be downsized ultimately. Yet, we keep accumulating
more than we actually need.
I believe that the bigger the space you create
the more clutter you will pile up. Every empty wall needs to be filled up.
Yet, our heart has huge spaces in it. We
call it a void. Because
ironically we downsize the heart very early in life, which we are not supposed to. No clutter there. Whereas, the more full it is, the more abundance there would be; a completely opposite reality the main difference between the physical world and the non physical world.
ironically we downsize the heart very early in life, which we are not supposed to. No clutter there. Whereas, the more full it is, the more abundance there would be; a completely opposite reality the main difference between the physical world and the non physical world.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 16 December 2018
Observation and Learning
When do you believe in everything you read
and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the information in the
cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what should one live by and
what to discard.
People say going to academic institutions
makes a huge difference and those who say this would be right, too. Except for
one thing. There is a deeper native intelligence , the When do you believe in
everything you read and what others say? And you are constantly tossing the
information in the cauldron wondering which is true and what is not, what
should one live by and what to discard.
presence of which makes the extraordinary
difference to an educated person. That discerning quality is more in some and
less in others. Of course, it can be cultivated to an extent with basic common
sense and lots of observation and learning.
The ability to separate wheat from the
chaff catapults the level of the educated mind to another level. And to impart
that quality in those who teach makes them extraordinary and learning an
absorbing exercise. Otherwise, mugging is just an exercise for the memory and
not the brain. It doesn't teach you how to live life.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 26 July 2018
Attitude
Wearing your attitude is an old saying.
Actually, the difference is in its quality. An attitude is or should be an
expression of who we are. Cultivated attitudes for presentation to the world
are suspect, because that's not who we are.
At the end of the day, we have to live with
ourselves. So, if somewhere within us, we feel the need to enact an attitude
superficially, we may not be confident that we will be liked for ourselves.
Which means, deep down, that we don't like ourselves too much?
The one we need to impress is ourselves,
not others. As they say, we always talk about loving this one and that one, but
how about loving ourselves so that our attitude may have genuineness to it?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 17 June 2018
Chance
There is a great happiness that lies in our
hearts and which springs forth from our hearts when there is harmony within and
without. The laughter of friends, the gushing of a waterfall, the drenching in
the rain together, bus journeys playing "Antakshari" amidst much
merriment... and even in the silent companionship.
Life can be beautiful if you give it a
chance.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 13 June 2018
Sunday, 14 May 2017
Compassionate
Understanding people! How often do we
actually understand what is going on in the lives of people? Or, even attempt
to ? Most of the time, we end up reacting to every look, every word....every
gesture...
When we are in public, we expect a certain
kind of behavior from people. But we forget, as we don our masks, others do,
too. But a mask is a mask after all. It can slip with an unexpected trigger.
And when the facade drops momentarily and the hurt and pain are revealed, we
never stop to think of the reasons why that person may have accidently become
transparent. Instead, we react immediately.
Understanding people is nothing
short of personal healing. When you attribute a genuine reason to a person's
slipped mask, you will feel a sense of well being for yourself for having been
compassionate. For having gone into the depth of a person's psyche to recognize
the soul within. What can be more elevating?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothariWednesday, 4 January 2017
Monday, 19 September 2016
Monday, 12 September 2016
Observation
If the only thing we did in
life was to observe people and why they do what they do, we would actually live
the saying “Life is the best school". Not
only that, we would also understand ourselves better. No puzzle here! It is
simple! For every observation, examine the emotion within you and the
importance you give it, and you will realize what
it is that you need to work on.
What we also learn is what to
do and what not to do. Learning history, geography etc. May fetch us a degree
but if we can learn the right lessons in the school of life we can get our
pedigree.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 1 April 2016
Oscillation
Oscillation!
On a hot day, one finds much relief in the oscillation of the fan. That is
comfort.
Not
so when people in your life oscillate. Now on, now off. Now friendly, now not
so. Now happy, now miserable. Now caring, now not really.
It
must be agony to live this way, to feel this way. It must also spark an element
of restlessness from being like a yoyo.
Consistency
of thought and emotion is very important. It gives a balance to the mind.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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