Showing posts with label Comfortable. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Comfortable. Show all posts

Wednesday, 5 August 2026

Generosity

 Generosity in people is a rare trait. Their smiles don’t come from the heart. Praise is even less forthcoming.

I have always wondered what smiling at and praising someone takes away from us. Anything? Nothing.

If we can only find ourselves comfortable and confident, both the traits are very natural and very human.

Yes, low self-esteem and feeling inadequate may be partially or wholly responsible!

There is no option but to examine these feelings and learn to overcome them. Because they are only perceptions that the world has gifted us . We don’t want or deserve such gifts. Instead, there are gifts we can give ourselves, like a high self, a right value system and confidence to stand alone if need be, within the light of truth .

Stay within your own light. And if there is darkness in any areas, dispel it and replace it with light.

Surekha Kothari

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Wednesday, 8 April 2026

Silence

When you awaken, you look at your life and many of your reactions with amusement. Each one of us is enveloped in a drama of karma and desires. We judge every experience from the way it appears to us : positive or unpleasant.

If we take away that aspect of our own feelings about the experience, what is left? Yes! Only the experience. And without attaching emotions, it is easy to go through it.

Conditioning makes this clinical observation very difficult. Our attachments with relationships and having been taught our behavioral patterns very early in life, we grow up with realizations of what works and what does not, again depend on how WE feel.

Subjective patterns are there to stay unless we can observe and change them consciously.

What really works ultimately is inner silence. That gives us more clarity and also prevents self-defeating thoughts about how others make us feel. Actually, totally unnecessary but inevitable to mankind most of the time.

The other moot point is that if you are a giver, people get comfortable around you and take what you have to give. But there is no energy exchange and you end up depleting your energies out of love/ attachment or whatever …

Silence is that tool that consolidates your energy levels. It makes you abstain from expending your energies in the name of compulsions prescribed by families and societies in the name of “duty”, whose forces are very difficult to resist by individual energies.

Awareness and consciousness are the basis of living, I am learning. Bringing your subconscious world into the conscious one will help create new patterns of living. And I am not saying this is easy. To break old patterns requires courage to move out of old self-created molds.

But there it is! Take it or leave it!

Surekha Kothari

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


Friday, 7 November 2025

Voice of Conscience

 If we don’t fine tune our energies, the subtle aspects of human behavior will elude us.

But some people are more comfortable this way. You know the saying, “he is thick skinned “. These are not empaths. They don’t perceive others. And they don’t understand how and why the people around them get hurt.

Actually, they also are unable to listen to their voice of conscience.

Surprisingly, there are people who prefer to be thick skinned. It is a huge protective shield for those who don’t want to FEEL because they feel that is weakness and regressive for their plans.

That is probably why we have so much lack of harmony in many societies / communities.

We are not adept at being empaths AND focused on our purpose, at the same time. That balance is difficult to achieve unless we are wise and principled.

Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

www.instagram.com/author_surekhakothari/

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Tuesday, 7 January 2025

Transformation

 Transformation is always from within. It is a change which comes to stay. Cannot be external or faked. Also, it comes after a lot of churning within. With a realization that something NEEDS to be changed, that it is not quite right, even makes you uncomfortable.

We have a built in meter within us which tells us. But we may not either realize this or want to listen to it. When we are not ready and have to go

Through some more churning.

Isn’t it strange then that we have everything with us, but we take so much time to actually turn to the right side of the coin?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Thursday, 26 January 2023

Expectations

 

It is all about expectations. We feel “comfortable” around certain people because somehow, they don’t threaten our self-image. We accept only such people.

If you analyze why some others are kept at bay by you, or criticise or pick on, you will learn a lot about yourself.

The moment you reflect on your thoughts, you will get the link within yourself. It is never outside of you. Keep reflecting and cleaning up as you go along. This is the only way to growth.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Friday, 4 November 2022

Reflection

 

We are always so close to healing ourselves, except for denial of our distortions. THIS acts like a thick veil between us and our healed selves.

We DON’T need to know about anyone else.

We need to know

WHAT angers us

WHAT inspires us into conflict

WHERE lie our imbalances

WHY we are unaccepting of our need to change certain thought processes within us

WHY we prefer to blame others but refuse to admit to our own weaknesses

WHY we feel envy, and pander to our insecurities etc

What do any of these have to do with anyone else?

But, this is the way we want to continue to live. Never mind the miserable state of our minds!

Why are we living a life or pretence and getting comfortable with a lie rather than the truth?

It seems quite illogical, or SHOULD appear as illogical to an “educated” mind. Except that academic education is no guarantee …

Each of us forms a society and the standard of society is therefore, determined by each one of us. 

Change is an internal phenomenon, the triggers of which might lie in the external world. But it has to start within. And we have to feel enough discomfort when looking into our mirrors, to WANT to change our muddy reflections into clear ones.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Friday, 20 May 2022

Ignorance

 

Progress starts with an intention to learn, to improve from our programmed selves. All rage , anger comes from past conditioning of the mind.

The huge difference between Duryodhana and Arjun was the one single point .. that Duryodhan knew he was wrong but he did not feel like doing the right. And Arjun wanted to learn from the advice of Krishna.

God is on the side of one who wants to change erroneous thought and behaviour .

There is something negative in us that impels wrong behaviour, on the excuse that either the need to misbehave is all consuming or the reactions are uncontrollable. In either case, it would be an effort to  want to change, preceded by a sincere intention to recognise wrong as wrong and having the awareness to transform that into right.

These are mere words for many, for this process needs much time and energy as also deviation from the other “comfortable” habits acquired over time. 

This aspect is not and should not be prioritised only by senior citizens and those who are in the “vanaprastha” or “Sanyas” stage of life. In fact, it should start early in life to avoid future confusion and mistakes due to ignorance.

When I see the surge of self enquiry abroad, I wonder what is the percentage of people In India that is aware its own ancient knowledge and the beautiful truth that it teaches .

We really can’t hide behind the language barrier of Sanskrit as the language of the texts. There are innumerable channels available in several languages to remove the ignorance we happily live with. We just have to tune in to the frequency with trust and faith.

For that to happen, a spark of self enquiry needs to be lit within us.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Tuesday, 21 September 2021

Circumstances

 Kaliyug means the age of darkness . In people. Dark thoughts, conflicts, blame , callousness, envy and what not.

People pretend to carry light when they don’t have it . To mesmerise people. There is no sense of belonging as known earlier. Everything is judged in terms of money and power. Those who have it will not share it but will use it to influence and dominate the weaker souls.

The weaker will serve the stronger, follow them, make a cult around them and never move forward for themselves.

To reach a point of ennui under the circumstances would be natural. But we plod along the beaten path, beaten by life and beaten by our own selves but grateful for the crutches people provide us so that we can serve them.

Our country became independent long ago , but did we ? And if crutches is what makes us comfortable, why not opt for a divine crutch ? At least, it gets us somewhere.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Friday, 2 April 2021

Procrastination

 

If only! Sometimes, I wonder what life would have been without these two words "if only". We always wait for ideal conditions to fall into our laps which will hardly happen, and we know this, too.

If only we had a son...

If only we could go for a holiday...

If only I could avoid going to school today...

If only I had more money...

If only it were the right time!

Our theme song is "if only"

We certainly don't subscribe to the power of "now". But of course! How can we? Procrastination is really very comfortable. Inertia! Inaction! Relax! Take a chill pill and watch the world go by.

It’s a great plan..   

Seriously speaking, there is no "right" time except when we make an intention and carry out the intention the power of NOW.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari