Showing posts with label Decision-making. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Decision-making. Show all posts
Wednesday, 17 June 2020
Thursday, 20 February 2020
Belief systems
Phrases like “generally speaking” and “by
and large” should be generally avoided. These are such a severe conditioning
that anything out of these lists can be pretty hard to take.
From a young age, our minds are
indoctrinated with these completely impractical generalities unwritten norms
which don’t work for everyone. There is no “one size fits all” in life. And we
have and continue to see this. Writing verse and facing life are two different
things. Idealism and reality don’t even come close sometimes. And yet, our
belief systems, even our pattern of loving people is often based on a “should”
that comes out of a generality.
“I should do this because he is my dad or
she is my mom”. Should? Why? Who wrote the rules book? “Should” doesn’t come
from the heart. It is inspired by a motive.
...but still, we carry on and end up
confusing others and ourselves. Simple answer! Do what comes straight from your
heart individually not generally. And if the heart itself is blocked, see a
therapist. But don’t teach too many generalities, because they don’t apply in
many cases because people are different. Their thought processes ate different.
Their responses are different.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 19 February 2020
Thursday, 7 November 2019
Monday, 14 October 2019
Tuesday, 9 July 2019
Belief system
Of late, I have begun to question many
belief systems. And one of them is the definition of loyalty. How far do we
stretch to prove we are loyal ? And why do we need to prove loyalty ? Do we
need to see reciprocity in loyalty ? Or is it a bit like unconditional love
where you must be loyal but not look for loyalty as a return. Is this what
people call owing allegiance to ?
Sometimes, when a relationship goes through
stormy weather, out of pique and hurt, we cease to be loyal. We speak against
people. Should we be like that ? Can we live with that ? Or is it better to
just let them go and walk away ? Or, is loyalty standing still , come what may
?
Hmmm. An interesting introspection with a
review of our past years . Where and when did we exercise our choice for and
against loyalty and what we now need to learn.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 25 September 2018
Thursday, 9 August 2018
Sunday, 29 July 2018
Thursday, 25 May 2017
Thursday, 2 February 2017
Comfort quotient
Once you establish the connection between the body, mind and
soul, you should be able to have a multi pronged approach towards analysis,
whether of events or you yourself. All the content is to be examined in detail
by examining the quality of the layers surrounding it.
The ramifications of any event necessitates the use of a
microscope under which the specimens would be our thoughts, emotions, how we
feel about things, our comfort quotient etc. With people, too, this method
should be employed. Only then can we remove the unwanted layers and preserve
the important ones and thus, preserve the meaningful in all of the thoughts
emotions, actions and attitudes.
I am convinced that this exercise would make it possible to
connect all positive and good vibrations with each other, in body, mind and
soul while doing away with all of the vibrations that have been colored by our
own inconsistent and imbalanced perceptions, led by our ignorance. And also,
thus, leading us away from our ability to discern, feel, recognize the right
from the wrong and from establishing the connectivity of the body, mind, soul
with all creation and the Universe.
In the Universe, we practice what is universal. And what is
universal is that everything is interconnected. Any tendency of separatism can
only give grief.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 17 November 2016
Monday, 3 October 2016
Connection
The
heart and mind connection! I read a post that said, the heart wants to hold on
but the mind wants to move on. It set me thinking...is this true? Does the
heart not want to move on? And does the mind never want to hold on? Hmm …
I started to analyze the mind, mine and that of others I
know, and I feel the mind can really hold on...to emotions, thoughts...it does
not know how to let go easily, especially the negative ones.
The heart on the other hand, finds freedom in letting go because holding on is not necessarily love which is the prime characteristic of the heart.
Actually,
it is attachment which gets confused with love and that is what holds on to
what is “mine” as compared to yours.
What do
you think, friends?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 16 September 2016
Sense of responsibility
There was a time when being friends meant telling each other what the weakness
of each other was, like showing a mirror. It was a time when friends were
responsible for doing the "right” thing by each other, as in, retaining
the value systems of their homes and frowning at and correcting any lapses. To
be a friend was an ethical and moral achievement and came with a major sense of
responsibility. There were great bonds, almost an extension of family. There was leisure and simple pleasures. The psyche was molded
with supreme foresight and wisdom by the "gurukul".
A Vedic school in India is
being talked about. It is a matter of great foresight on the part of the government.
There can be no better way of bringing back the wonderful Indian cultural and
ethical traditions than teaching them to children. People think that India will
regress this way. I think India will gradually regain all its glory and
spiritual supremacy which is
the gateway to all other kinds of supremacy.
Most important, whichever
religion we may follow, acceptance of the human way of life with all its
universal principles is the key to elevating the standard of friendship,
relationships and the quality of life itself.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 22 August 2016
Wednesday, 10 August 2016
Thursday, 4 August 2016
Thursday, 21 July 2016
Destined
Destined! I used to believe for a long time
that we can do ANYTHING we want to. Life proved otherwise. But with a corollary
not everything we want can be achieved. But when that understanding dawns and
we are able to accept and let go of that desire, miraculously, other
opportunities begin to shine before us. And those often are what our inner
calling is.
The question is, at what stage do we become sensitive
to this awareness?
And how do we remain untainted by the
pollution of our desires which may not be in sync with what the Universe has
chosen for us? It is very possible if we learn to understand the symbolic
language in which the Universe speaks to us.
Many of us have
had the experience that during a questioning phase, you open a book and
suddenly, your answer is there. Or, someone around you will say something which
is just the reply you are looking for. This is the supporting language of the Universe.
If you go deeper and start observing everything with a microscopic awareness,
each minute will become very profound in its information and knowledge.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 7 June 2016
Sunday, 29 May 2016
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