Phrases like “generally speaking” and “by
and large” should be generally avoided. These are such a severe conditioning
that anything out of these lists can be pretty hard to take.
From a young age, our minds are
indoctrinated with these completely impractical generalities unwritten norms
which don’t work for everyone. There is no “one size fits all” in life. And we
have and continue to see this. Writing verse and facing life are two different
things. Idealism and reality don’t even come close sometimes. And yet, our
belief systems, even our pattern of loving people is often based on a “should”
that comes out of a generality.
“I should do this because he is my dad or
she is my mom”. Should? Why? Who wrote the rules book? “Should” doesn’t come
from the heart. It is inspired by a motive.
...but still, we carry on and end up
confusing others and ourselves. Simple answer! Do what comes straight from your
heart individually not generally. And if the heart itself is blocked, see a
therapist. But don’t teach too many generalities, because they don’t apply in
many cases because people are different. Their thought processes ate different.
Their responses are different.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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