Showing posts with label Living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Living. Show all posts
Sunday, 12 December 2021
Thursday, 5 September 2019
Everything is changeable
The days your heart is full are the days
you come closest to bliss and to Godliness. Everything around you is positive.
Only good news comes your way. The people close to you are communicative. You
feel love and grace. A perfect day!
Spoils us for those days which are not so
perfect because in our ignorance, we start expecting every day to be a replica
of that one perfect day. A lot of this syndrome has to do with our
expectations. We know every day is not going to be the same but we still feel
bad and stressed when it isn't.
Perfect days also have a lot to do with our
responses to the situations during the day. We can choose to smile or frown and
that takes care of the mood setting for the day.
It is not wrong to say that it is in our
hands to turn the mood around to a more positive one. An honest attempt may work,
but not each time. Sometimes, our own energies may not side with us and
sometimes, those around us may overpower us to succumb to an outcome not
designed by us nor expected.
But you know what? At the end of the day,
everything is okay and will pass to give way to a new phase yet again. There is
no scope to feel triumphant. Things are constantly in a state of flux.
Everything is changeable and changing constantly. That's life.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 22 January 2019
Victimhood
A strong message that we need to give
people is that of recognizing the aspect of victimhood within themselves and
shedding it at the earliest. When you compare yourself with others and find
yourself lacking in a few things, you feel life hasn't been fair to you. Victim
of life!
When people don't treat you well, you feel
you are not wanted, Victim again; without realizing that THEY may be struggling
to get out of their victimhood moments which stretch into years for many. Similarly,
you see relationships falling prey. One dominant the other victim, the power
play! Sensitive people often go under very quickly. And the game never stops, because
one of the two is living a victim's character.
Victimhood may be the result of many
things. Low self worth, inability to derive moral and spiritual strength,
depending on others for love and caring, not able to live with themselves and
many more. But the bottom line is, if you sink into victimhood, you sink period.
It is very difficult to come out of it. So, please don't let anyone push you
into that corner, not even your near and dear ones.
Stay wholesome people. And emerge stronger
each time you face any situation. After all, who is going to accompany you out
of this world? Certainly not those who were instrumental in your receding into
that mode.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 17 December 2017
Purity
Envy makes people do one of the two things:
either putting down the object of envy directly, or deliberately putting up
other people in their presence, especially when in a group.
Forget methods for a minute! It is just so
sad that there is that need to feel envious.
I remember the simple question we were
asked in school. How do you shorten a line without touching it? And the answer
was, by drawing a bigger line next to it. Very positive!
But in this case, it is hardly positive.
The method is the same but intentions so different. It is really the intention
that determines all action and outcome. And the origin of any intention is
either positive or negative.
Simple! If we kill to save or protect a
life, that is positive. But if we are overly generous but inwardly not well
wishers, whatever we do lacks purity, because the intention lacks purity.
Purity is simple. And positive
intention is simple, too. There are no layers of deviousness there, nor
required either.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 14 December 2017
Thursday, 28 September 2017
Analysis
All these years of my practice have taught me that the one
single enemy within is insecurity. It is like the nucleus of an amoeba. Everything
undesirable emerges from it.
I can be insecure about innumerable things. Starting at
birth, with my environment. Maybe, I was not a wanted child. The family never
accepted me. Maybe, I grew up in isolation...a neglected child. Could be my
family was financially not sound and I had to pinch pennies....and
circumstances like this....
People seldom realize what has transpired in the lives of
individuals they meet or know, and how and why they have become the way they
are today...
Character and personality are not traits only from one life.
We have multiple personalities living within us. Kids who display certain
qualities don't do it coincidentally. There is always a good reason.
So, insecurities build up from childhood, not only because
of incidents that happen in this life but also those from other lives that we
are here to neutralize.
An analysis of these insecurities will bring up effects like
anger, complexes, diffidence, lack of self worth, envy , jealousy etc.
In fact, insecurities are directly proportionate to the self
image. Feeling good and worthwhile is important to survival. And self image is
generally based on the illusory self and therefore, cannot sustain itself, as
all illusions cannot and do not.
So, try the antidote to insecurity. Strip away the surface
layers of reactions one by one. Realize the power of love as being able to
achieve miracles and discard anything that your soul within revolts at. Listen
to the voice of the soul from within and understand what the Universe tells you
about your life and how to live it. Gradually, you will succeed in dropping all
insecurity, the biggest being that of the inevitability of death.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 25 September 2017
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Thursday, 20 July 2017
Monday, 12 June 2017
Monday, 7 November 2016
Confidence
People who are actually
reserved or unsure, maybe quiet or even shy tend to get misunderstood as
egoistic or arrogant. It is our limitation of the mind that brands them so.
Isn't it? Being unable to make them open up to us can also be our weakness.
Life takes different turns for
different people and not all of them can have a "don't care"
attitude. Some may become introverted, too.
So, next time we see withdrawn
people, we should seek them out and try and boost their confidence with our
kindness rather than judge them wrongly.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 28 October 2016
A sense of compassion
To forgive and be forgiven is
the most beautiful feeling. It removes many blocks within, cleanses our
energies and gives us a new impetus to start over. It is often a difficult
exercise. But if we look at every human being as a soul and all the layers as meaningless
as the ones we pile up on ourselves, we might succeed in developing a sense of
compassion.
To let go of grudges and resentments and to try and forgive completely
is beautifully demonstrated by the "paryushan" week by the jain
community. They ask for forgiveness within their family and friends and anyone
else they have hurt. And this requires a subjugation of the ego, although
temporary for many. Being human, we do tend to lapse. However, it does teach us
and make us aware that we need to make it a part of our lives gradually and
with practice.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 7 June 2016
Tuesday, 24 May 2016
Tuesday, 23 February 2016
Age Comparison
It is lovely sitting around the
fire on a cold evening. Just like it is lovely to sit around your children to
warm your heart. Good comparison…but fire destroys, too. As a symbolic fire in relationships.
It
is sad to see disorientation between new age kids and parents. I wonder why
love is not enough. There is much imagery in relationships today…sometimes;
children are even ashamed of their parents, their dressing, their behavior,
their social etiquette, that they look and talk down to them.
When you get into your late 50's and 60's, and
see people and loved ones leaving this world one after another, it seems
unimaginable that anyone should disregard the value of their near ones . It is
not their fault that they were from a different environment, growing up. That
they only learnt what they were allowed to learn at that time. That the freedom
today was not given then. And many other circumstances due to which they became
what they are today.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 21 February 2016
Memories
It
is so amazing how we are born in one place but settle somewhere else. Actually,
do you know that even land pulls us towards it? We have had several past lives
and in the places that we have unfinished business, we also have a tenure of
residence or a visit.
You
get a deja vous in certain places you visit. I distinctly remember such
situations in Rajasthan and in Chittoor in particular and all of us have these
memories. Yes, land definitely calls out to us have these memories. Yes, land
definitely calls out to us.
Sometimes
we exhibit certain traits of the land we have lived in, like a deep interest in
certain music or dance or even dressing styles.
Quite fascinating!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 9 February 2016
About "Titiksha"
I want to share what my mother told me
today...about "titiksha". It means, without worry, grief or tears and
without resisting the flow of life and events, to tolerate everything. A tall
order, right? But there is more!
This is just ONE quality of a peaceful person.
The others are: decisiveness, obedience, sacrifice, love, generosity,
happiness, silence, patience and tolerance.
These are pearls of wisdom from our spiritual
texts and Masters who lived these qualities.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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