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Elixir of life

The importance of gratitude can never be overplayed. We just don't have enough. We overlook so many dimensions which need gratitude. Sometimes, we don't even thank people for the little things they do for us. We don't think it is important to thank our parents, our children, our friends, and the people around us. Our body and organs, all the internal systems that have supported us all these years and our breath which gives us the elixir of life, our senses through which we can feel, see, touch, taste and smell the beauty of the world. Gratitude invariably leads to surrender. And all spiritual awakening happens naturally.

Surekha Kothari

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Special gifts

When you criticize someone, sometimes, you envy because you want to be like them. But at the same time, you don't want to emulate them. A bit contradictory for sure. But looking deeper, it means there is some originality of spirit waiting to illuminate itself. There is so much substance within us, we don't know it ourselves.

Often, in mere defiance of others telling you this, you turn the other way either out of sheer laziness to explore within or disbelief of the self. "Just couldn't be bothered" would be another reason. And the current comfort zone would be a huge one.

We end up wasting much of our special gifts. But ironically, what we don't know of, we don't miss.

So, don't worry. Be happy. At the end of the day, this matters.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequence

I read somewhere that grief is unproductive. And frankly, I have to agree at some level. Though grief is the most intense form of loss, it can also be felt for lesser types of loss in the larger context. For example, loss of Jewelry would be a lesser loss than the loss of a loved one. However, it is often very difficult to qualify grief because it is directly proportionate to the attachment levels. It can be an extreme form of a deep wound or hurt. A deep disillusionment about a loved person can result in grief.

What is really the dangerous consequence is the depression, the loss of hope that could set in. It can lead to mental disorders of a serious nature. At such times, a strong faith is the only guide that keeps you going. And the fact that even if there are underlying threads of grief which are permanent, there can be a recourse to other things which can engage the mind to disconnect with the grief if we can attempt this.

I try to give myself the advice I give to clients and that is challenging. It is so easy to guide others but when it comes to ourselves, don't we often fail to take our own advice?

Surekha Kothari

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Regressive

A very positive way to look at life and its unfolding. The dice turns regularly even in a dice game. But the two situations are so different!

The dice game is happening for a while only and on the outside. Externally. Life situations have each of us at the core. It is very difficult to externalize situations as if they are happening to someone else. We can smile sportingly if we lose a game like Ludo or Snakes & Ladders and move on. But can we equally smile away losing in real life circumstances? Failure becomes the repeated theme of our minds. And moving on a completely unavailable option to the mind at that point.

What this post says is to understand that every throw of the dice in life, whether "1" or "6" is designed to teach something. And a lesson learnt is certainly a step forward.

When people talk of being "regressive", it only means lessons are unlearnt and repeated negative patterns established.

Surekha Kothari

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Exhaustion

Life makes us change by force if we don't do it willingly and with understanding. We resist and resist and resist....we agonize, agonize, agonize...we defy, defy, defy…we live in conflict, combat the world day after day....

And what happens finally? Nothing but exhaustion! More and more exhaustion. Till we want to drop.

When do we call it a day? When do we start looking for a little bit of heaven? A little bit of peace?

A tortoise withdraws into its shell to keep safe during an adverse climate. Not so the human...sometimes, two people are too many! And the shell is merely a nonexistent illusion. The desire to have your will prevail at all costs blinds a human to all else. After all, aren’t the free will a gift of God? While we move slowly but surely towards exhaustion, we lose out on life itself...and then nothing matters anymore.

Surekha Kothari

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Destination

Time is linear. From the day we are born, we are moving towards death. Ascension is symbolized as going upwards, evolving, elevating ourselves. Even the Holy Cross means just that. A horizontal line crossed by a vertical. The kunadalini rising through the chakras upwards also means the same, that evolution implies breaking the linear and circular dimensions to ascend, through higher vibrations generated by higher and purer thought processes and use this life to shed all that is meaningless for our ascension. Only we can do that by travelling the road enlightened people walk along , to walk in their footsteps and to learn from them before we move along on our own towards the only destination that we have been given this life for.

Surekha Kothari

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Progressive

Common sense says one must do what is progressive. What hinders progress is obviously our inability to THINK progressive. India being such an ancient country, it is steeped in various traditions. Each state has its own culture and traditions, almost as if it were a different country.

As a nation, we evolved. We tried to learn from other countries as did others from us. But somewhere, we started thinking that the definition of progress is more money, more power. The race is to become a power center. In every field.

This power center is like the honey that bees get attracted to and swarm around. And then, we develop a mob mentality ruled by these power centers. Basically, a mob mentality is mindless and can often become a dangerous trend.

Any belief that begins to border on fanaticism loses its core of origin. Every belief starts with an experience and gets strengthened as a stereotype which is then very hard to let go or change.

We must remember that stereotypes are valid for a period of time. And there valid reasons for their development and existence, too. But they are not all timeless.

We have heard ad nauseum that change is a constant. So, some truths also change with time. To move on and adapt ourselves would certainly be progress if the consequences all around would be win all around.

But if we try and hang onto some stereotypes which lost their value in an evolving world or within a changing context, we could end up in a regressive situation instead of a progressive one. And every phase is chronicled in history as the wisdom or the madness of men. We look back in judgment but what we need is to be vigilant and aware in every phase so that wisdom prevails and we need not look back with regret, small or big.

Surekha Kothari

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Confidence

People who are actually reserved or unsure, maybe quiet or even shy tend to get misunderstood as egoistic or arrogant. It is our limitation of the mind that brands them so. Isn't it? Being unable to make them open up to us can also be our weakness.

Life takes different turns for different people and not all of them can have a "don't care" attitude. Some may become introverted, too.

So, next time we see withdrawn people, we should seek them out and try and boost their confidence with our kindness rather than judge them wrongly.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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THE TRAVAILS OF LOVE

Over the years, in my experiences as a healer, I have seen many facets of love in people which demonstrate an acute need and therefore, a lack of this valuable emotion. Love is a prime energy which connects everything in creation. But we see fear rule people much more than love, and it is a fact that love cannot survive where there is fear. The converse is also true. Love and fear cannot co exist. There is a deep contradiction in the minds of human beings where, on one side, they want love and on the other side, they tend to mutilate it with their expectations.

There is a category of people who aspire to be loved through serving others, hoping that this will find approval in the eyes of those they serve and some love may come their way. There is another category of people who want love badly but who will actually turn people away from themselves by pretending that they don’t need anyone in their lives. Such people are very vulnerable from within and need to be taken care of. A third category of people is the demanding kind. They want love in the form of attention and can become quite obsessive.

One has to examine the womb reality and often, past lives to identify the root cause of why people are this way. The truth is that the intrinsic quality of the soul is love and that it doesn’t have to come from external sources at all. The soul, by virtue of being a spark of the Divine Energy, is abundant in love which actually multiplies when given out. But humans don’t trust and therefore, doubt everything and everyone. The Universe protects us provided we are in sync with it and live by its laws.

Love is its own reward. We love because it is our nature to love, not as a condition that the love is returned to us. Unconditional love is connected to our inner fountain of happiness and joy: the joy of giving with love.

I see many controls happening in the name of love. There seem to be unwritten rules in a close knit group which curtail the freedom to love those outside the group. Or, even if some do, they are not willing to show it. In families, too, there are divisive forces arising out of insecurities which find their roots in the inability to understand the actual nature of love.

As a healer, I know that if love becomes a need or even an obsession, the energy of the seeker goes out to the giver and debilitates the one who needs it and asks for it, while the giver becomes stronger. The precondition of a healthy Heart Chakra is the ability to love while keeping our personal space intact. When we feel depleted of energy, we tend to look for it outside ourselves when we should actually be tapping it within ourselves and also retrieving it from those who we have given it away to. Unlike a vessel getting steadily empty as we use its contents, the more we share love as a Divine Energy without expecting a return, the more love seems to fill us. This is an eternal fountain for those who experience the feeling. It is a transformational experience which words cannot describe or achieve.

Our lives are so colored by our desires, ego, biases and negativities arising out of a deep seated ignorance and a lack of awareness that unless these are removed, we may not be able to experience the simplicity and beauty of life and will continue to live in dark zones.

Surekha Kothari          

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com