I read somewhere that grief is
unproductive. And frankly, I have to agree at some level. Though grief is the
most intense form of loss, it can also be felt for lesser types of loss in the
larger context. For example, loss of Jewelry would be a lesser loss than the
loss of a loved one. However, it is often very difficult to qualify grief
because it is directly proportionate to the attachment levels. It can be an
extreme form of a deep wound or hurt. A deep disillusionment about a loved
person can result in grief.
What is really the dangerous consequence is
the depression, the loss of hope that could set in. It can lead to mental
disorders of a serious nature. At such times, a strong faith is the only guide
that keeps you going. And the fact that even if there are underlying threads of
grief which are permanent, there can be a recourse to other things which can
engage the mind to disconnect with the grief if we can attempt this.
I try to give myself the advice I give to
clients and that is challenging. It is so easy to guide others but when it
comes to ourselves, don't we often fail to take our own advice?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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