Showing posts with label Counseling. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Counseling. Show all posts
Sunday, 2 August 2020
Sunday, 29 March 2020
Tuesday, 10 December 2019
Sunday, 7 July 2019
Sunday, 27 January 2019
Silence
Sometimes, silence is the best policy. It
is a mistake to think we can explain ourselves and the opposite person will
understand. Also, talking about the universal phenomena, of solutions to
issues, of sharing wisdom, or any love for that matter, may not be acceptable.
Silence distances you from everything and works on your own peace and evolution
where speaking creates conflicts. The choice is easy. But to arrive at it is
difficult.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 9 September 2018
Exaggerated politeness
You must have come across people who never
look straight into your eyes and talk or, will talk with an exaggerated politeness,
especially in public. They probably have some need to be connected with you but
don't necessarily like you too much. Each time you look at them, they will be
looking at you with an undefined expression from the corner of their eyes and
will quickly turn away when you actually catch them looking at you.
As we grow older, I guess we start
observing more. As they say, who knows what feelings people are hiding under
that obscure, even blank look!! We succeed in reading such aspects of people
with growing awareness.
The biggest challenge is to understand where
people are coming from and then getting immune to their machinations. You know
what is going on behind the scenes. You are able to see it clearly but you are
not going to let it affect you. Once you know and there are no obscurities that
are your power and your strength to work with.
Here, too, you need courage to endorse your
own path. And stay with it. "Men may come and men may go but I go on
forever" kind of doggedness. Energize! Constantly energize! And immunize!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 15 July 2018
Friday, 6 April 2018
Understanding
I wonder often... when one actually reaches
closure to anything. When a wound stops festering and begins to heal and
whether it is ever given a chance to keep healing or whether someone keeps
touching the raw nerves so that they never heal, at all. And time passes, it
stays until it's time to pass on.
The agony of the human being is completely
underestimated and / or undermined because no one can get into anyone's shoes to
experience it. But many claim to. And many are critical without understanding.
This is something I have yet to understand. It is truly amazing.
And to make matters worse and more
challenging is the compulsory and social need to wear a happy surface skin
which hangs loosely because the wounded skin is so tightly wrapped around.
Blessed are the souls who can feel this
deeply about others.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 4 January 2018
Friday, 22 December 2017
Monday, 18 December 2017
Friday, 8 September 2017
Thursday, 17 August 2017
Tuesday, 25 July 2017
Wednesday, 24 May 2017
Sunday, 30 April 2017
Our Ego
Banking and karma are very similar. You open an account. You
make certain investments, including FDs. Sometimes, when investments are bad
ones, they give you losses. And good ones, dividends.
Once our karma account is opened, we should try to make good
investments. Otherwise, we will find our account of good karma depleting very
fast and then we are left with very little balance.
There is always a tussle between the need to create good
karma and the blocks we create with our ego. We need to work on understanding
this big time.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 3 November 2016
Wednesday, 2 November 2016
Limits
Defining limits! A very
difficult exercise for many. Specially to know when to stop. To know when you
are encroaching on someone else's space. To know when you begin to cross the
line and begin to intrude or encroach onto someone else's life.
Human psychology is complex to
say the least. I realize that some very deep rooted insecurities make people
cross limits, to grab something they believe will make them feel better. But
that is far from what might happen in the long run.
Ultimately, you might succeed
in controlling people for a while but once people set limits and demonstrate
the need for space, crossing this might prove to be a bad choice.
They say, if you love someone,
set them free. But if you end up controlling them, you show you don't love OR
respect them. It only demonstrates a gnawing personal need.
Taking the space that is
yours and then, with dignity, moves away. This speaks of a beautiful energy
that is in harmony with itself.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 26 September 2016
Tolerance level
Our tolerance levels are so thin these days, every
little pin prick becomes a wound. The reactions to small, simple things are
just ridiculously huge. It's like the world might be ending the next second.
What is probably happening is, there are very few
filters. Very little thought before action. It is evident everywhere. On the
roads as road rage. In parties, as an aftermath of too much alcohol. In
families with too much money, fame and power, and so on...
It is unfortunate that a land of an old spiritual
tradition should come to this. The whole world looks to India for culture,
tradition and spirituality, a few major qualities being tolerance, patience,
respect, discipline and inner wisdom that was honed since a very young age in
the earlier times.
Today, the teaching institutions themselves are so
commercial and non spiritual that they are bound to impart the same energy to
the youth of today. Who do we blame for the onslaught of the "instant
coffee" and instant gratification age where money and values are not
talked about in the same breath?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 14 September 2016
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