Judgement

 People were discussing gossip the other day. I started analyzing the detrimental value of this malicious pastime. I could not see it as “information”. More like inquisitiveness and maligning people out of jealousy or spite or both.

We are self-proclaimed judges in society, maybe because judging is easier than thinking things through. And it is certainly not objective by any standards when our emotions manifest in running down someone.

There comes another human aberration to mind. And we have all been subjected to this, causing deliberately planned or thoughtless misunderstandings. Remember Chinese whisper, the game we played in school? At least that was innocent and invited a few laughs.

People have this habit of listening to conversations and then quoting lines from

these conversations WITHOUT giving the context within which they were spoken in the first place! In isolation, those lines could be interpreted very negatively. This causes terrible misunderstandings because people today are quick to personalize every statement. Especially if they don’t particularly like the person who speaks. There is no room for benefit of doubt. Such is the intensity of insecurity these days. Maybe even of very low self-esteem.

Instead of igniting fires of separation, would it not be better to bring people together, just with positive suggestions to all? We do tend to endorse negative viewpoints out of conviction sometimes. The wise however, do not do that. They allow things to be and for change to happen through experiences. A constant criticism and judgement does not give space to the other person to reflect. Also, a direct attack on anyone’s self-esteem is nothing short of cruelty.

As it is said, kindness is to support and strengthen people. Our role in life is meant to be salutary.

The truth is, we are all connected. And when we ignite sparks, some of those sparks burn us too.

And let us incorporate ourselves within our levels of consciousness to get the larger picture.

Surekha Kothari

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Sense of freedom

We are free spirits but once limited to the bodies given to us, we limit ourselves in major ways. But the body is a vehicle to have a fulfilling life as well. The irony, the apparent contradiction does not sit well on many. It is like sitting in a car and driving instead of walking on your legs. It is an apparent convenience but there is a need for judiciousness and discretion apart from skill and of course, energy petrol.

Going through life needs all of the above. And when these don't work, the body itself becomes an impediment and the sense of freedom is gone.

This is the whole point of balancing the body, mind and soul.

Surekha Kothari

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Silence

Sometimes, silence is the best policy. It is a mistake to think we can explain ourselves and the opposite person will understand. Also, talking about the universal phenomena, of solutions to issues, of sharing wisdom, or any love for that matter, may not be acceptable. Silence distances you from everything and works on your own peace and evolution where speaking creates conflicts. The choice is easy. But to arrive at it is difficult.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Exaggerated politeness

You must have come across people who never look straight into your eyes and talk or, will talk with an exaggerated politeness, especially in public. They probably have some need to be connected with you but don't necessarily like you too much. Each time you look at them, they will be looking at you with an undefined expression from the corner of their eyes and will quickly turn away when you actually catch them looking at you.

As we grow older, I guess we start observing more. As they say, who knows what feelings people are hiding under that obscure, even blank look!! We succeed in reading such aspects of people with growing awareness.

The biggest challenge is to understand where people are coming from and then getting immune to their machinations. You know what is going on behind the scenes. You are able to see it clearly but you are not going to let it affect you. Once you know and there are no obscurities that are your power and your strength to work with.

Here, too, you need courage to endorse your own path. And stay with it. "Men may come and men may go but I go on forever" kind of doggedness. Energize! Constantly energize! And immunize!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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