Showing posts with label Destructive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Destructive. Show all posts
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Monday, 15 April 2019
Wednesday, 2 January 2019
Tuesday, 17 July 2018
Emotional shoes
Getting into someone's emotional shoes is
very difficult. Sometimes, people are not even aware of what others go through.
I mean the "near and dear" ones. A lack of compassion!
Probably I can't but be cynical when
everyone makes the "right" moves and overtures because it is festival
time and about the rest of the year, the less said the better.
Socializing, partying, endorsing
"friendships" by being with friends and spending time with them has
become more gratifying than spending time with family.
There should be less hypocrisy and more
honesty because the world has changed and those who crave for family
relationships must become wiser , less expecting and read the writing on the
walls which are loud and clear.
I see so much isolation in the hearts of
those who grapple to give a genuine smile to the world. It seldom reaches the
eyes. Amidst the loud noise of the crackers, hearts are teary and heavy.
I am not morose, just saying it as I see
it. And my heart goes out to those who have no joy in their hearts, whether
Holi or Divali because they don't want to go through the rights motions just
for a day anymore.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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Monday, 28 May 2018
Intellectualization
Intellectualization of meditation is not
possible, because meditation is going beyond the realm of reason and therefore,
beyond the conscious mind. This is why intellectuals often fail in hypnotherapy
sessions.
You have to let go the rational mind at
least for a while if you want to explore the hidden crevices of your sub
conscious mind. Rather, buried files in this part of the mind which has many
answers to your life.
Hypnosis is a state of mind we all visit frequently
and can make productive use of it by erasing what is not required in our lives,
with new intentions to erase and rebuild.
We all know what is worth holding and what
is worth letting go of. It is a matter of good sense and will.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 6 May 2018
Tuesday, 17 April 2018
Wednesday, 28 February 2018
Tuesday, 27 February 2018
Sunday, 18 February 2018
Monday, 18 December 2017
Monday, 23 October 2017
Sunday, 15 October 2017
Group behavior
The
human mind can be really fickle if we don't watch out! Its likes and dislikes
oscillate much more than the changing seasons. Maybe, in current times, the
seasons are also becoming as unpredictable as people.
We
must really ask ourselves why we are so lacking in consistency and why should
our will prevail each time? This seems to be a huge reason for our
inconsistency. "I"..."Mine"...Yes sir! We salute you. It is
and has to be only you and you... amazing! And this would also be fine if there
were no frequent variations in what came out of that "I" and
"mine". But the inconsistencies within short term consistencies which
I am calling "fickle" here seem to be endless.
Especially
when in a group. Group behavior, if you notice, is a typical example. A few
days back, I wrote about insecurities. Frequently changing parameters of
emotions are directly linked to the very same insecurities.
Often,
we misinterpret, and sometimes, wantonly misinterpret the words or acts of
people we are not too fond of or are even envious of. Where is the core issue? Of
course, within us. We actually don't have the courage to be ourselves and fall
short in our own eyes.
So,
fickleness leads to oscillations, and this soon becomes a chain. Like riding a
bike downhill without a break. We don't know how and where we are going to end
up. Because the bike is driven by "I" and "mine" whereas
the consistency is due to the ability to control the brakes .These are the "we"
which we fail to activate.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 5 October 2017
Thursday, 21 September 2017
Monday, 10 July 2017
Tramuas
"To hell and back" is common
terminology when we go through an intensely bad experience and are trying to
recover. None of us can actually live in anyone's shoes to feel that intensity.
Though we can try.
To feel someone's pain, agony is an
evidence of very deep soul connections. We don't feel so for everyone and there
is so much misery in this world.
The intense and searing pain that tears us
apart at the suffering or death of a special person can create a hell around us
on a daily basis. This is what depressions are all about. You get up in the
mornings and the first thought is about these souls, that is, if you slept
through the night before. This is true of all traumas that we go through in our
lives at various ages, from rape to betrayals to abject misery and disenchantment.
The biggest service we can provide is to
try and mitigate at least a percentage of that feeling of "hell"
where they live. Even if we can touch one life in this manner.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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