Motivation

 A huge realisation that this pandemic has forced into us is , just how much valuable time we have wasted and lost in pursuing just worldly pleasures, if I can call them pleasures in my mistaken sense of perception.

And I don’t mean for a moment that one must not enjoy life. It is just that our definition of enjoyment has become very meaningless and unspiritual. We find enjoyment in trivia, meaning that there is not much value prevalent in certain activities. Trivia that sometimes brings out the worst in us.

Can I learn to balance my day to include a balance of these ? It is commonplace to quote,” all work and no play….”. But that is not accurate in this case.

Seekers of higher truths are few and far between but if goodness can be brought in within the realm of spirituality, then that is definitely a start.

Next, we must define goodness. To me, it is defined by a single line: “do unto others as you would have others do unto you”. Eliminate double or multiple standards to embark on a rightful path first.

Think before you dole out anything but goodness, because this is what you also expect from others. So, you cannot superimpose your will on anyone.

But we do it all the time.. people think they are good but what they do has nothing to do with goodness… all kinds of reasons and excuses taint our intrinsic goodness. And the worst part is, we tend to justify our actions all the time.

I would definitely say that if we start with a little bit of self healing ( and there are innumerable techniques available) , we can start a process which will certainly benefit us. The intention is first. Next is motivation and then commitment.

So be it !Surekha Kothari

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Human nature

It is human nature to dwell on hurt more than happiness. Both words start with "H" but they are poles apart in their emotional content and precisely because we can't find enough energy to feel complete. "They" can only affect you if YOU let them, because YOU don't understand that YOU give them power over you.

We find it very difficult to say "no" in general. We compromise, get dragged and pulled and pushed on account of playing different roles and for the sake of other people. This inevitably goes against our grain and gradually, to resentment and a kind of anger which snowballs into inadequacy and complexes. And the next thing you know is, you start letting others upset you because are upset already. You start attracting people who upset you and comments that throw you over the edge.

But for how long and more important and at what cost? You can learn to say NO to hurt, to being hurt. For some, baiting is a game they play to feel superior by getting that extra power from those who are vulnerable. And the vulnerable get hurt instead of smiling it away, as simple as that.

Say NO to hurt and people will not affect you anymore.

Surekha Kothari

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Physical level

All our lives we try and try and try...to grow and grow and grow...

We run to every opportunity there is...for healing. Different methods, a rehash of similar methods, meditation camps, workshops, tarot cards, astrology, angels, pranayama, pranic healing, reiki, hypnotherapy...etc....

And once you have been everywhere, you realize that nothing really changes if you don't change yourself through self practice. At that stage, you feel you have read enough, listened enough, imbibed enough. And now it is time to experience. This is perhaps the starting point for change. And this is what is the most significant landmark in your life. Whatever else you may do with your life on the physical level.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Circumstances

To deserve what you get! How far is this true? Does everyone get what they deserve? "Deserving" is such a debatable word. We all feel at one time or another that we didn't get what we deserved. It is an imaginary yardstick we have for ourselves that makes or breaks us.

Who is really to say what we should have or not have in terms of anything ? Or, deserve it for that matter.

How many times we set goals, work towards them but fail to achieve them. Did we not deserve them then?

Likewise, we get pulled into a tunnel of success in something we never even hankered after. Did we deserve that when we did not ever work for it ? Was it luck? Or karma?

So, deserving is something it is better not to focus on too much. You want to achieve something, go at it with full steam. Try your best. Don't judge at all, whether you achieve your goals or not. Because, this is a most positive way you can live your life. Circumstances may change while you toil. You may also decide to change course along the way. Who knows? So, why care or wonder about deserving at all? You had what you had. You have what you have. You will have what you will have in the future. A perfect attitude for contentment.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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State of joy

Silence! A potent word! How many types of silences do we know of?

I am reading a very informative book: "Silence" by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk. Such books increase our awareness manifold.

We don't know how to face silence. When we are not doing anything, we try to engage our mind in other activities. Anything to get away from silence! We are consumed....

We consume food to avoid emptiness. We let our senses consume us. Feelings! Intense ones! Hatred. Anger. Even love consumes us.

Our desires, choices consume us. Passion consumes us.

And our conscience can consume us. Guilt, repentance for our actions, speech, words.

All these are enemies of silence, of silence that should ideally pervade all these and destroy them.

So, meditate, meditate and meditate. Deep breathe, deep breathe, deep breathe. Our breath is more powerful than we know.

Breath cleanses negative feelings and negative karma apart from bad habits and addictions. Meditation helps to achieve and maintain silence. And one day, this silence becomes golden. This is a state of joy.

But we need to start our journey to get there.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Truth

Tact, diplomacy or a deflection of truth? The lines between these are blurred today. There are very fine lines between these. So much so that it becomes difficult to tell the difference unless we can really fathom our own intentions or those of others, for that matter.

Twisting the truth a bit to suit our for-the-moment needs is often done under tact and/or diplomacy.

Actually, we need compassion for ourselves when this happens. Because we stray without knowing this. And this straying is so subtle that even we can't see it at the time. Of course, for some, it may also be deliberate.

Facing our truth is like getting scorched under the sun with no shade at all. And who is strong enough?

Truth is truth. Undiluted. To be tactful is just to say the truth so that it is palatable. Diplomacy has shades of tact but is slightly diluted. Because a diplomatic person tends to say what the opposite person wants to hear. So, often, that borders little on truth.

It is a fine balancing act. There can be possibilities of crushing someone's self esteem with truth or a possibility of making them feel good with a slight camouflage of truth. That’s why life is called gray and not black or white. And sometimes, our wisdom can be another person's poison.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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