Showing posts with label Potential. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Potential. Show all posts
Tuesday, 3 December 2024
Monday, 2 December 2024
Generations
Duty consciousness takes care of
so many potential grievances. It is sometimes better to do what you are
supposed to do, mechanically, than fail to do it.
Freedom without duty consciousness
is really a recipe for grief! Not for anything else but for oneself! Time and
time again, I have seen that defiance to do your duty can bring in a lot of
guilt later. Because we ignore some universal principles.
The “should” and “must” have a
very important place in one’s quest for freedom. To do what one should do by
oneself and for others is the balance we need to create in our lives.
We are all connected by invisible
dots which have to link harmoniously. A tug of war of any kind can upset the
equilibrium.
Each one has a role here. Nothing
more. And how well we can perform is our mastery over this art before we leave
the world , hopefully as a better place for future generations!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 28 May 2020
Wednesday, 3 October 2018
Sunday, 30 September 2018
Human nature
It is human nature to dwell on hurt more
than happiness. Both words start with "H" but they are poles apart in
their emotional content and precisely because we can't find enough energy to
feel complete. "They" can only affect you if YOU let them, because
YOU don't understand that YOU give them power over you.
We find it very difficult to say
"no" in general. We compromise, get dragged and pulled and pushed on
account of playing different roles and for the sake of other people. This inevitably
goes against our grain and gradually, to resentment and a kind of anger which
snowballs into inadequacy and complexes. And the next thing you know is, you
start letting others upset you because are upset already. You start attracting
people who upset you and comments that throw you over the edge.
But for how long and more important and at
what cost? You can learn to say NO to hurt, to being hurt. For some, baiting is
a game they play to feel superior by getting that extra power from those who
are vulnerable. And the vulnerable get hurt instead of smiling it away, as
simple as that.
Say NO to hurt and people will not affect
you anymore.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 24 April 2018
Communication
It is so true that different people get
different things from any one component. Let's take social media. Some hate it.
They find facebook, instagram etc. too impersonal or even invasive. Then you
have those who love to make "friends" who they can be the best of
themselves with safety in acquaintance. There are also those who want to
connect with old friends they have lost touch with. Some feel less lonely when
they communicate on a facebook.
Similarly, I do think it is possible to
extract the best for oneself from every episode, every person and everything
else, too. Just depends on the attitude and mental dexterity, not to mention
intelligence.
If I know something is good for me, I
should be able to pursue it without prejudice and recourse to any kind of
cloudiness in the mind. I can't understand why anyone should judge without
experience. And why I should let myself get swept away beyond my purpose and
even after my need is fulfilled. I believe one can try anything new if one
knows where to draw the line.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 26 July 2017
Friday, 7 July 2017
Views
Sometimes,
we don't lend credence to the fact that people's minds are wired so
differently. What is clear as daylight to me may not be necessarily so for
others. Naturally then, in a close family or group situation, this is a reason
for conflict if one side imposes views on the other.
In
a dialogue, we can try and impress our perceptions because a dialogue means
both parties are open to listening and imbibing. However, the scenario changes
if we try to superimpose our views on the opposite party. Even if the final
conclusion might be in favor of MY view, there might be a resistance to it if I
insist on my views being the only right ones.
So,
often, we compromise, keep silent or go along with the popular view to keep our
relationships intact over and above being right. Only with the understanding
that it cannot be "my way or the highway" kind of attitude. There are
reasons why "my way" could be rejected, though maybe, not all valid
ones from where I might be looking at it, but very valid from other angles
arising from other views.
Therefore,
the ultimate outcome might be a good one only if we are willing enough to
respect those other points of view to complete the picture.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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