It is human nature to dwell on hurt more
than happiness. Both words start with "H" but they are poles apart in
their emotional content and precisely because we can't find enough energy to
feel complete. "They" can only affect you if YOU let them, because
YOU don't understand that YOU give them power over you.
We find it very difficult to say
"no" in general. We compromise, get dragged and pulled and pushed on
account of playing different roles and for the sake of other people. This inevitably
goes against our grain and gradually, to resentment and a kind of anger which
snowballs into inadequacy and complexes. And the next thing you know is, you
start letting others upset you because are upset already. You start attracting
people who upset you and comments that throw you over the edge.
But for how long and more important and at
what cost? You can learn to say NO to hurt, to being hurt. For some, baiting is
a game they play to feel superior by getting that extra power from those who
are vulnerable. And the vulnerable get hurt instead of smiling it away, as
simple as that.
Say NO to hurt and people will not affect
you anymore.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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