Showing posts with label Genuinely. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Genuinely. Show all posts
Thursday, 28 October 2021
Monday, 28 June 2021
Social etiquette
Sometimes, I think this irritation of people with fake news is really unjustified. It is WE who have invited it. We have created a market for it. It’s almost like a child telling a lie ever so often that everyone just laughs it off but the child continues lying because it has a license now. Through indulgence by the elders instead of instant correction.
Think ! How long have we worked to convert
the society into a fake one. Yes, when individuals start to become fake
themselves , gradually, the “fake” is supported and encouraged . Why ? Because
fake behaviour, as in pretentious and false , gets you everywhere... or so
people think. That is the attitude today
“Straight from the heart” is not in
fashion. In fact, it is mainly a perceived as a weakness. “Social etiquette” is
making yourself popular through massive doses of artificial sweeteners. No one
wants bitter gourd juice anymore , the bitter taste of which conceals
innumerable health benefits.
It is so amazing to sit back and watch how
the hypocritical gets wonderful results while frank speak gets shunned. That’s
why there are fewer people on the path of dharma.
But, you have to ask those who are
genuinely simple and heart driven people whether THEY want to seek out the
fake. You will find that they are pretty intolerant of this.
Aren’t we just a little bit exhausted trying to live a life that does not define us ? Actually, do we even know what defines us ? Worse still, do we WANT to know ? Not unless we start facing the truth about ourselves. And for this, we need to leave the fake world behind even if it means moving into a new space, which syncs with our true selves.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 17 March 2021
Relationships
When we face hardships, some of
us become very hard. And some of us become very malleable and vulnerable. A
hard shell gets not only rigid but very defensive. We don't want people to look
at us because we assume people will pity us.
This is not true as a general
feeling. There are people who care genuinely, not pity. But we have a tendency
to shun affection because we misunderstand even affectionate gestures as
arising out of pity. Not only is this sad but a sign of ego. When we insist of
returning every affectionate gesture with affection, it is beautiful. But when
we fail to accept graciously as much as we expect others to accept graciously
from us, THEN it is false pride and we must learn to understand the subtle
difference. Relationships are delicate.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 28 December 2020
Conversations
As you age with experiences, now on an
emotional high and on a low the next minute, with all kinds of upheaval and
painful learning, there comes a time when everything levels out and you just
count your blessings every day. And everything is a bonus, either to make you
happy or teach you lessons.
I guess negativity is so exhaustingly
futile that this realization is enough to shun it. Whether you allowed it
through people or situations, it never helped, only hindered, most importantly,
your personal growth.
So, these days, one is left talking to oneself
about these things if not to God. My conversations with God are on the
increase. Nice to know you have a friend you can talk to about just about
everything and who knows you so well. Answers come from within when you
genuinely ask. Quite amazing!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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