Showing posts with label Relief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relief. Show all posts

Thursday, 4 June 2020

Comparisons


Why is it that often, new friendships fade into a kind of indifference after a while whereas old bonds can be revived any time? What is it about childhood friendships?
We travelled with my dad every two years and this moving constantly never really gave us the time to strengthen bonds. Today, when I see my children having such strong bonds with their friends, it is because they were together since school days.
As children, there were no motives attached to friendships.
Not a care in the world about the frills of family name, fame etc.
Comparisons set in only when, as adults, we start calculating and comparing.
But as I always say, everything does have two sides and the good side of changing cities is that you learn to adjust and adapt early in life. And unconsciously, your mental horizons expand as well.
We call ourselves widely travelled when we have indulged in a lot of foreign travel. But I tell people I was a widely travelled kid!
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 17 March 2020

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the highest form of kindness in the world, I think. The one who cannot forgive is worse off ultimately, from the one who seeks forgiveness. Imagine how much work people have to put in to genuinely forgive someone ! It is also incredible that you can , in fact, live with yourself without forgiving. How complicated you can become by knotting yourself up within mixed emotions.
As they say, only humans can make mistakes. Also, that you yourself have made many and more , and sometimes have been deliberately offensive, too. So, when you know this , you would also, at some point, arrive at the repentance mode which leads to forgiveness. And then , to unimagined relief and happiness.
Try it , at least 
with those who love you and admit to human error.
Surekha Kothari

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