Maturity! A very vaguely understood,
perhaps misunderstood condition. Generally, we refer to maturity when we
actually speak of people aging. "Maturity" seems to be used as a
synonym for aging. Frankly, it is only the body aging and so, all aged people
need not be accused of being mature.
Maturity is an inner process of growth. It
means to take complete ownership of the self and that, too, with
responsibility. Very often, we remark about people's immature behavior or
immature words. Both project a certain lack of growth.
Maturity has no direct connection with life
experiences. But, it has everything to do with personal responses to those
experiences.
There are times when you must give in and
times when you must hold back. To understand when to exercise such a choice
effectively is a part of being mature, to HANDLE yourself during situations, to
be calm, to be proactive and aiming to cause least damage while acting upon a
well thought out plan.
Maturity is to act wisely and bring a
wholesome harmony into an erstwhile tense situation.
That is why impulsiveness is often not considered
to be maturity. Not enough thought there! It is also often mistaken for "spontaneity"
which, again, is not a synonym. "Impulsive" is judged as
"childish". Yet, Osho says that to be childlike is to reclaim your
innocence which leaves you desire less. He calls this state as maturity. Where
you don't really NEED anything. You are happy anywhere, any time and no
situation have the power to rob you of your peaceful state of being.
In maturity, we feel light and happy all
the time. Because we have understood the transient nature of this world. That
everything that has a beginning must have an end and that we don't have control
of this cycle until we are mature enough to realize that we are all Buddha’s.
We have understood that, apparently unobtrusively, we are flowing away with
time and each time we make long term plans, God has a good laugh at our
expense.
It is when this happens that maturity has
dawned and ignorance has lost finally!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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