When we need someone, we end up
compromising ourselves. The equation changes and is not an equal one. And the
direct result is the feeling of being taken advantage of. Very normal and understandable.
BUT...when the awareness of this happens,
it becomes a less tolerable situation and a difficult task to set the equation
straight. Then there is resentment. Many have experienced this and continue to
do so...
What is the solution? Must this be changed
even if it is difficult? Because everything comes with a price. Are we prepared
to pay it? In these types of cases, distances can arise between people.
Or, should one keep the surface equation intact?
In any eventuality, one will have to change the negative feeling and heal it.
Our past actions cannot be judged because they are past. If one learns from them
that is wise. The healing can happen when we know what happened, re live it and
understand what we did and why.
There is no need to beat ourselves up or
regret our actions. All we need to do is analyze our own needs for that moment
or period of time. This in itself is the seed of a solution.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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