I hope there comes a time in everyone's
life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act
on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling
the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us
lacking somewhere.
By the question is, is it unhealthy not to
love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves?
I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister,
most of the time.
Why is it that in India, women can be
"up there" and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she
strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is
changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and
over a long period of time.
I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere
the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset
but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don't fit in within
your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?
The current dilemma is that of a changing
role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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