I just had to write on the post below. I don't think we even KNOW how
much in fear we live, in the name of love. We cling on to our "near and
dear" in the name of caring, sharing, unity etc. Parents claim to love
children. Children claim equally to love their parents. Friends claim to love
each other. But often, we see so many power games being played. The more
rampant the ego, the more power play we see. Powerful or powerless? In control
or controlled?
We readily compromise our personalities, our choices, swallow our tears
when hurt , smile when we want to scream foul play or blue murder....haven't we
seen enough misery in "families" , in fact, in most groups? ...and in
the bargain, we lose ourselves trying to procure a bit of love, to feel wanted.
We don't realize we go along with the wrong, the unjust, even the callous
because we want to feel good in being a part of people, and then we stop
thinking. We just have to toe the line. And we do...all the time. It is easy.
Exercising the right choice and thinking for ourselves may set us apart ...that
is scary, to say the least.
Exactly as the post says. We are so afraid of "losing" others
that the fear of loneliness results in our opting to lose ourselves instead for
a temporary happy feeling.
How heavy a price is this for our soul! Our journey is alone. We are
like passengers on a train who meet for a while and disembark when we reach our
destination. I have never seen any passenger telling another to go home with
them and live and die together. Have you?
But we know of people who had a mission and who had the courage to forgo
many an impediment to retrieve their inner core and energy from the people,
places and events to which they had lost it. So don’t be afraid to lose people,
be afraid of losing yourself.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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