One thing is for sure! Our agonizing over relationships only defines our own need. Know that story about the monk who was meditating on a boat on the river in the dark and kept getting disturbed by the collision with another boat? He burst out in anger at the person in the other boat, only to find that the boat was empty and was colliding against his boat due to the winds.
In life, we do this all the time.
We find situations intolerable and vent our anger! So too, in relationships. If
we can think of all relationships as that empty boat, we will cease to be
needy. With an attitude that if there IS a person in that boat, smile! And if it
is an empty boat also, smile! Nothing can stick to you if you don’t let it.
Observing the fleeting nature of
things is a great lesson.
Sometimes, a “best” friend can
part with you for years on account of a small misunderstanding. And sometimes,
someone recent in your life can give you the support and caring you would never
have imagined.
Sometimes, you expect more from
those you love and that can really mess you up if that love is not reciprocated
in equal measure. It was probably the equation that was to set in but not
acceptable to us.
The long and short of this is simply to cultivate happiness from within, not giving much thought to what was, what could have been, why it is not the way it should have been etc. Save yourself the agony. It is completely self-created and harms no one but you.
Hard lessons and often taught by
people closest to you.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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