Growth

 A daily, mindful search for answers can be really worthwhile in your life. And I mean a spiritual search for the truth.

Of course, acceptance of what you cannot change is one aspect of life. But living a depressed life is no answer. We have a higher self, an alter ego so to speak, within us which has a completely different vision of who we are and should be if we are not.

To tap into it, perhaps we need to rise above all environmental influences and all of our own mental aberrations. Also important is getting to your own truth, untainted by what others think about you. Every judgement is shallow and not to be entertained. No one has the complete knowledge or experience of you more than yourself. And even then, we are vast and so much is yet unrevealed. So why deplete your own power and sense of worth?

Every bit is work only on the self. Nothing more, nothing else. And your answers come from within once you have gotten over the phases of anger, denial and bargaining with the self.

It is just like when you are in darkness and out of the blue, a light shines and illuminates everything. 

Meanwhile, keep letting go. Don’t hold on to anything that hampers your growth.

The last few moments of breath before life ends are the most crucial. We have to work towards a clean and detached mind without any pining for any aspect of life, or clutching on.

LET GO!  And keep letting go every minute.

Surekha Kothari

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Nature

 

What can be more healing than nature? This is why all the hill stations are visited regularly. There is something about concrete jungles that disturbs the peace. Also, because we ourselves probably cannot handle the stress of city life. We are as concretized within our desires and therefore fail to give ourselves a spiritual perspective of the temporary nature of everything around us. Space gives us a sense of the infinite. Cities generally do not.  We must find our own environment, within and without, to become peaceful.

Surekha Kothari

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Fact of Life

 

In our generation, parents were parents first. The friendship angle came only after enough and more respect and obedience were given to them. Defying them and their teachings were a tad difficult and often, impossible. But we grew up just fine, in fact, with an enquiring but aware mind which assessed the value systems we were taught and found them to aid the human touch that makes us human beings of some calibre.

With the onset of insular families, parents gradually started feeling the need to compensate for the lack of senior members of the family that were distanced. So, they felt the need to become friends.

Naturally, all formality had to be dispensed and conversation had to be tweaked to suggest a reduction of the age gap. Simultaneously then, the respect between child and parent also reduced. And soon, parents found their wisdom falling on deaf ears.

There is nothing black or white in life. But, this informality and right to be friends removes a very essential barrier between the teachers and the taught. All filters are removed and children unknowingly start to disrespect the wisdom of their parents, sometimes, even teachers. Consequentially, the conflict between the two increases and becomes a fact of life.

Of course, there is love. How can there not be? But it recedes into the background in the wake of such conflicts that arise from egos and the inability to re-introduce the boundary lines which have been blurred considerably and crossed many times.

I think the quest to teach generations the old Indian model of relationships based on love and respect must made a reality in no uncertain terms. That environment itself has been missing since a very long time. And the concept of “independence” is now based on the all-consuming right to deny / disobey all advice that is not palatable even if it is wise.

How do you infuse the right blend of respect and friendship? The right and effective balance for a harmonious family life?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Environments

 Extortion, extracting the proverbial pound of flesh is the norm today. The extremely flimsy and transient “fame” comes with a huge price tag. It is for all to see.

The system is so decadent that no one does anything for nothing. Everyone wants to control everyone AND their environments and the higher the range of fame, the higher the price. If you do anything out of a mere goodness of heart, you are declared a fool. In fact, you don’t belong to this world.

Why is it necessary to be obsessed about people recognizing you wherever you go? Except furthering your ego each minute, what does it do? And look at the tags attached: Loss of privacy, jealousy and hatred, security issues, and so much more. Is it worth it?

Ultimately, even the rich and famous are human beings. In their position, it’s a rat race. To stay on top of the ladder is the name of the game. And stress levels are unbelievable! No wonder then that the extra energy comes from other artificial addictions because moral strength is certainly not visible here as a source of that extra energy.

Actually, and unfortunately, all the anchors have been lifted from us. The biggest minus because we are now like rudderless ships, running amuck on the sea of life, getting swept by lashing waves wherever they take us. No control over ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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