Relationships that are close but become distant
over a period of time... I have been analyzing them.
When it is a new relationship, both people are
on their "best”, giving, adjusting and accepting mode. They find a lot of
similarities and meeting points and are really excited that they have hit the
jackpot!
But they haven't factored in that life
experiences need not be similar, nor reactions to experiences either. As we see
frequently around us, siblings brought up in the
same environment and by the same parents can be so different from each other.
Not only that, each one also grows differently. Different attitudes. Different
belief systems. Different behavioral patterns.
But if one
among the two friends or couple hits a low patch, maybe a long one even, the
other is often unable to sustain the closeness of relationship for hankering
after what there used to be. These are the kind of people who want to feel
comfortable within a known environment and show little compassion or
understanding for the situation of the other.
Conditional caring at best! But what to do? Change is the essence of
life and sometimes, it leaves behind what does not work anymore and ushers in
new people and new experiences designed to explore a new spurt of growth. One
has to make choices all the time.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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