Adults
who have psychological issues need to look at their growing up years. Parenting
comes very hard to some parents. It is very common, especially in India for
family and friends to foist their expectations and opinions on each other.
Hardly
a year goes by for the newly married couple when people start wondering if
everything is alright in their marriage. Why? Because they haven't announced
that they are on their way to becoming parents. ..Children are therefore, often
the desired "objects" that make couples feel "normal". And of
course, if the "object" is a boy, then the parents hold exalted
images. But they may not have been ready for parenting, or wise for that matter.
As
a result, many children are mal nourished emotionally because the parents are
not mature themselves. And they grow up minus the wisdom that should accompany
the love, caring and attention. So, some children become lonely. Some become
recluses. Some become overburdened with expectations. Some become attention
seeking....and some try to draw attention though
anything sensational, even killing.
Parents
really have to be very careful about exercising wisdom in their own lives and
lives of their children.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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