Opportunities

This is especially for moms. Once the children fly the nest, there is a huge upheaval inside them, a deep void which very few understand unless they have gone through it themselves. Children included. It is so difficult to get into "someone else's" shoes. Yes, I have called a mom "someone else" because she IS.

I don't mean this in a callous way. It is an Indian thing that moms pretty much sacrifice many years in looking after the kids. I won't say "nurturing". Many kids don't feel nurtured though many moms have done their best, some of them while going through hell themselves. And many moms could have done better as well as long as they don't beat themselves up for this thought. . But "could have" is speculative.

So, to come back to the void within, it is accompanied by a lot of guilt. “Maybe, I failed in this and this...". The "could have" syndrome! And some kids make sure they tell you. So, you are left in no doubt if you were even a little doubtful earlier. And there is always hurt...o yes! Immeasurable hurt!

So, I want to tell these moms what my guru says ...when kids fly the nest, you start building one for yourself which augments other aspects of your personality which you had no time to look at or gave up out of love for kids or some other compulsions.

I believe in "alone", not "lonely". "Alone" carries opportunities for growth. "Lonely" lacks the ability to see those opportunities. How long will you be a conformist if it does not make you happy?

Domesticity is a long habit. It is not a bad thing. But, it is not the ONLY thing. The sooner moms realize this, the more they will be able to expand their vision and incorporate their dreams into it.

Good luck!!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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