In
"satsang" and from spiritual orators and books, we often hear about practicing
detachment. While being human, it is extremely difficult. But there are ways of
reducing the attachment. Just because, then, decisions would be more correct
and more balanced.
Simply
put, if we can just be clinical in our assessment of situations, putting behind
our personal feelings, this can be achieved.
You
know, watching the world go by? Just don't get embroiled in the lives of those
you recognize on the way. Easier said than done? Sure! But at least peace
reigns in the lives of such people.
Once
you get into the habit of expecting from people the kind of consideration and
compassion YOU gave them, you are in for trouble, depression and sleepless
nights. Specially if they are "family". Expectations from the family
are natural. But, people just grow up differently. Even siblings. They are
products of their own journey. This is the bottom line and the most clinical
one, too. It is always good to remember. So that we can immediately let go of
any personal expectations and understand that there is a reason why people do
what they do. And these may not coincide with your thoughts, values,
sensibilities or ways. But that is really not an issue. It is alright. The only
thing that is enduring is that which comes from the heart. And to listen to the
heart, sometimes, you have to lessen the impact of the brain.
So,
the ideal formula is love genuinely, keep a respectful line of control between
and live and let live. The only people you can bear influence on are kids... and
I am not even sure of that! The rest of the time should be spent on personal
evolution.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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