If life can be described as per my
perception of reality, it is a whole lot of phases, of dots that get connected
as you look back. There are periods of transition that come in response to the
saturation of one phase. Something works for a period of time and then they
don't work too well and this is a time for change. And so the process goes on.
But this is not to say there is no
connection. There are links between the phases, or you would not be able to
join the dots later in life. As we mature, we can look back and start
understanding what happened back there. Not that one should live with guilt and
bitterness. Could it have been better? Sure, if YOU knew better! But you
didn't. So, what happened?
Many a time, I hear friends talk with great
guilt after the bereavement of a parent, about not doing their best. “I could
have done better, contacted a better doctor, and been more vigilant".
Could you really have? And they carry this burden on an unrecognizable persona:
THEM. To what end?
This can be only the result of feeling out
of control. But then, we ARE out of control with destiny. It unfolds the way it
must and we start imagining that we could have changed it. Yes, but did you? Could
you? What does this say to you? Even if it had changed the way you wanted,
actually, it was meant to. That's all. Where do you come in? You just try your
best. I have to use the cliche "leave it to God".
We speak of the law of attraction, as if it
works for all of us. If it were that easy, every human being would want to
attain the earth for eternity. So to say, if everyone could take ladder leaps from
the first to the 10th step, why would the ladder have the in between steps at all?
Let's get real.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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