Make your life easy. We all have feet of clay and tend to give vent to our anger and frustrations. And in doing so, we may let words slip out that in calmer moments, we would not.
What amazes me is that apologizing
when you ARE wrong should come easily if the conscience is active. But it does
not. What is active is the ego and we cave in, and become slaves to our ego. There
are cases when hurts pile up between two people over a period of time.
Actually, so much pile up is
unhealthy. Often, one is a dominant defaulter and the other keeps quiet until
one day, something gives way and the conflict acquires large dimensions. And sometimes, it us because none is willing
to extinguish igniting fires.
It is always better to voice your
feelings the very first time you feel someone has wronged you. If you keep
silent for whatever reasons, the damage to relationships gets unnecessarily
worse. It is definitely not worth it. I find the closer the relationship, the
more the intensity of hurt. People call me too idealistic but honestly,
whatever the nature of the relationship, never stop stating your truth gently and
firmly so the next time, people will be careful.
And try to be simple, without
drama and conflict. Ultimately, YOU and only you are responsible for how you
feel and why. The entire onus of your life is yours and no one can make even a
dent in you without your permission.
Surekha Kothari
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