Self image

One of the biggest fears we humans seem to have is to be proven wrong. We go to any lengths to give excuses, explanations and justify ourselves. It is a malady! We are humans after all, and what is wrong in saying, "I was wrong?" It clears the air between two people if you admit the truth, that of being wrong.

But no! We will severe the connection itself if we have to, but will not confess. To say "I am wrong" requires guts and courage. You feel people will judge you and think negatively about you. But on the contrary, you will be respected for stating your truth because very rarely do people come out with simple, straight forward admissions of this kind.

If you lie to yourself, try to do a cover up of your mistake, people know what you are doing. I had a teacher in school who, if she didn't know an answer to a student's question, simply said that she didn't know but would find out the answer and tell him. She was one of the most highly respected teachers, for her honesty and simplicity.

It is such a burden to carry and such a false self image! What's the point? It can only cause stress. And you find yourself shying away from people for not having the courage to look at them in the eye. Not a single winning point there, right then why?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Commitment

There was a time when women wielded power at home through controlling their husbands and sons. That is where the source of finance was, too. How different is the world of a woman today. She has begun to come into her own and is getting her own sense of personal well being through education, work and financial Independence.

There has always been a debate as to whether there could be marital discord or a lack of tolerance and commitment between couples due to this evolution of the woman. But is that really the only reason? Does commitment to a spouse get diluted with the woman having her own financial security? If so, then what are we implying? That if she did not have access to finance, she would have had no recourse but to tolerate her situation for life?

Especially in case of a difficult marriage only because she would have nowhere to go. That is the reality of many women even today but this is changing.

Commitment between two people really depends on their love and respect for each other. The friendship they share. How much they value and cherish each other. Money comes in between only when there is space for it to become an issue. And when ego raises its head, protecting the traditional role of men as bread winners, from where came their superiority in a manner of speaking.

Today, education and a knowledge based economy has leveled out ( up to a point ) the chasm between genders and hopefully, men will realize the importance of finding an equal status with women a matter of pride rather than competition, plus the fact that each one becomes a productive citizen of the society.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari