Truth

 Why have we arrived at a stage when we hate truthful people? The whole social wheel accepts “sweet lies”, pandering to egos, and people pleasing.

Of course, people pleasing again bans any truth. Some of us can dish it out but are unable to take it. We do not like looking at any dark corners within ourselves; we just want to point out those of others.

It could be conflicts where one is generally responsible for starting them but retaliations pile up to camouflage the intrinsic core of the truth.

Masks, false smiles, saying nice things about each other but talking the opposite behind! No courage there!

Where is the truth in all this? There is a real dearth of real and truthful people because it takes great courage to speak your truth. Because if you do, you definitely stand isolated. However white you may be in the eyes of God, society can paint you black on account of your speech.

Surekha Kothari

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Circumventing life

Circumventing life! Do we really know how to live life? From the time of our birth, we are gradually moving towards death. But that's not the point. We die several deaths in life even before death actually happens. Either we live with past memories or with anxiety for the future. Almost as if that cutting of the umbilical cord at birth has the same effect as the severing of the cord of the kite in the sky, leaving it swaying in space , completely directionless and blown away by the wind to wherever it takes the kite.

We are not geared to living in the moment. That cord has been severed, too. And the reason is, we don't actually know how to live this way. The past and future thoughts leave no space for the present. So, our thoughts are also blown and scattered here and there and we just don't know the art of retrieving them and filing them where they belong or letting them go, as the case may be.

Each day passes, never to return. But all we do is frame our memories in picture frames and spend our lives looking at them, some with happiness, some with sadness and some with regret. Where is the space for the present? Where is the motivation to shake off the dust and start off again towards a new horizon?

Surekha Kothari

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Hypocritical society

We generally live in a hypocritical society. In families too, there are different behavioral patterns demanded of different people. No one yardstick. I have heard this line ad nauseum since childhood." You do the right thing. Never mind what others do". Really! It sounds like a wonderful line but can be a terrible line as well.

What is expected behavior from an elder child of the family or an imported family member like a daughter in law is different from that of the younger people. Much leeway is given to the latter. Why? I have never understood this. What is good for one should be taught to or expected from the others too.

Over a period of time then, what happens is that responsibility falls only on the person doing the "right" thing , willingly or out of force and expected. And the others are super quick in taking the advantage. I have often said that injustice done over and over again to the "right" doer will reach a crescendo one day and that day, there is a possibility of a volcano eruption. All the rules will get destroyed in the lava of bottled up anger.

I would not advocate this system itself, because the ultimate results are drastic and painful. Indian parents are famous for installing this system and igniting many issues. Different rules for girls and boys, different rules for the daughters and daughters in law, different rules for the older and younger. And so on.

So many reactions due to so much suppression of the spirit bordering on injustice among family members. And then they cry about families breaking up! You dare not speak up even if someone is being the cause of division of the family. "Do the right thing". KEEP QUIET and LET IT BE. Wow! What a destructive mantra, right? You only have to see the results to know this.

Frankness and straightforwardness should pay if we are not complicated and do things in the right spirit, with the right intentions and good will and without silly rules that divide more than unite people.

And I do feel injustice MUST be expressed to stop the tyranny of the perpetrators. The popular theory of mother in law and daughter in law , warring family members, the tendencies of usurpation of finance and power etc. are already spelling a death knell for families and in turn, societies. The tragedy is: no one cares anymore and no one stops to think. And I think all this has happened because individuals have not been given their due, their freedom of spirit and equal respect to be they and interact with others on their own steam.

Surekha Kothari

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