Demonstration

 

Love is not defined by demonstration.  And it does not diminish even if the people we love grow to become critical of us. It is indeed a quality which does not rely on the approval of or being accepted by someone. There will always be double standards in love: one , what they feel for someone and the other, the non understanding of what others feel for them.

We are too limited as individuals to put ourselves in the place of another . We need overt endorsements all the time. Also, I guess we are too preoccupied with our own story and what WE want. This is precisely why wise people have said that love is its own reward and expectations in love will definitely cause disappointment. Because love can become holy only if a relationship works on mutual grounds. Love is giving from both sides. And always, not sporadically. Otherwise, we love because we love, and leave it at that.

The most relevant examples are mother daughter, husband wife, two friends… the mother loves her child to distraction but the child moves away when it grows up. A couple may have differences and love may become scarce. The same goes for friends. Actually, WE are limited by our tendencies to judge, reject, hate, even be cruel , misunderstand, ridicule the weaknesses in another which we might be suffering from, too… because we don’t want to or can’t heal ourselves. We want to continue this way.

But these are the attitudes that later deepen and become manifested ailments . We know of many such cases, but we have this funny conviction that this will not happen to us. Many clients that I see have such deep issues but I find people block their minds when you try and speak to them about this. They want to continue this self damaging battle . Love in this world is weaker than hate and fear.

This is a part and parcel of kalyug. And accepting this is the only solution to bring peace in our lives , because, we are leaving this world alone, not in groups , so that their endorsement should be that important for us to damage ourselves and our journey.

Blessing everyone is the way to go because an aware human being knows that everyone is suffering. Otherwise , they would have more love in their hearts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari