Showing posts with label Conversation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Conversation. Show all posts
Sunday, 18 April 2021
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Tuesday, 18 August 2020
Sunday, 26 July 2020
Tuesday, 14 July 2020
Monday, 27 January 2020
Brand of reality
Each day, we experience our brand of
reality. Things happen. Episodes have reactions and become memories we either
cherish or battle with, to no positive end. Life becomes a problem only when
you don’t accept what is going on.
Human minds can be much distorted, in that
they value what needs to be discarded and discard what is of true value. And
this is why life revolves around problems. WE are the problem, not life. We
live within the constricted walls of unrealistic belief systems and negative
thinking patterns. Cloudy skies can never provide clear vision. So, if we are
to live well, we need to think of how we can see and accept our reality without
judging and blaming.
Each one of us has to take ownership of our
reality instead of living in some Technicolor dream sequence ... and then the
film ends!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 18 December 2019
Sunday, 8 September 2019
Emotions
Whatever we might want to do with our past,
we certainly do not want to forget the lovely memories. I am one of those, and
not the only one, who wants to discover the whereabouts of my school friends
through any means. Although I changed 6 schools due to my father's transferable
job, I loved the friends I made in all those schools, the last one being Loreto
Convent, Ranchi. Today, I got a call from my batch mate of my final year in
school and I am still on a high.
Do I want to change this and "move on”
certainly not. I like the fact that we can reconnect with old connections and
take off from where we left off all those years ago, difficult to have the same
bonds later in life.
But it makes me think that life is to be
experienced. Emotions have to be experienced. Of course, all the principles of
life and happiness must be observed. But there is joy in experiencing love,
bonding, caring and sharing and with these, some not so happy emotions as well.
After all, we live in a black and white world where experiencing only the
shades of grey in the name of balance might become a tad boring, isn't it?
So, live life to the fullest as long as you
are not doing so by causing someone else pain or grief. And go with your heart.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 4 August 2019
Self abnegation
Sometimes, we make observations like, he or
she talks too much. There are many reasons why there are some people who feel
the need to talk... to fill in the long silences between people, awkward
silences of discomfort. Some people try and fill up these silences to keep
conversation going.
On the flip side, there are those who will
just look at you but not speak. No reaction comes forth, as I mentioned this
leading to the awkwardness. The psychology of the silent ones runs deep and can
vary from insecurity to low self esteem to fear of saying the wrong thing; Even
the fear of ostracisation self abnegation.
The good news is, public behavior and
conversation is a learnt art. You can actually change your current personality
to incorporate techniques which will put you in a safe zone, and, in fact, make
you a confident and happy conversationalist.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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