Adulation

 One of the truths about humans is the desire for relevance. Those who have enjoyed mass adulation develop a high degree of insecurity when the applause dies down. Because the adulation has by now, become a mode of survival for the ego. We have seen the evidence of this trait developing in people after retirement and more so, because there has been no time or interest to develop an alternate point of interest for later years.

Actually, Relevance can be found in many ways within your own sphere of influence. By learning something new, by helping those who might improve their lot with one gesture from you, by simply an act of kindness that brings a smile on someone’s lips.

Life is full of different phases, each phase having its own value, its own relevance if we live it with wisdom. Adulation is temporary. It can be given and taken away too. What stays is your own soul consciousness. That needs work.

Surekha Kothari

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Alignment

It is all about alignment. Align with your cause. Align with the right principles and virtues. Align with your soul purpose. Align with the universe. Align with the light within you. Align with the world of knowledge. Align with the ultimate source of your existence.

Life’s beauty and purpose shall be revealed to one who does all of this.

Surekha Kothari

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Expectation and Attachment

 The irony in relationships is that when you start seeing the truth, often, you cannot state it to people openly.  It is not for nothing that silence has been recommended as the deepest form of wisdom.

It is amusing to see people being nice and even caring on your face but their actions and energy speak differently. And you can understand the duality in their nature.

It is a tough call when such a person is close to you. These are tests of learning to live without expectation and attachment. Because both end up upsetting you and deplete your energy.

There is definitely an amount of hurt which is unquantifiable. Hopefully, when you understand that it is not YOU, that each one has their own learning and timing of those lessons, that hurt will be mitigated.

Sometimes, you even wonder why they do this! It is so much easier to be simple and act as such. But yes! Easier said than done. And it takes work and more work to detach from the behavior of others, especially when it is devious towards you AND you are AWARE it is so.

Surekha Kothari

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Intelligence

 The onus of your life is totally yours. It is your choice all the way. What you do and even what you abstain from doing.

Your thought processes, your way of dealing with people and situations, your decisions to involve or withdraw, to tolerate or not, to compromise or not. 

Life is like a game of tennis. The ball keeps coming at you and you have to take quick action about whether a forehand is required or a back hand, and how to strategize to win points. And how to get really good with ace serves.

Similarly, life is a game of courage, intelligence and the ability to learn and move on, not lose your energy over what could have been. And life gives you chance after chance to learn, throwing repeated lessons at you until you learn from them.

You will notice that many a time, there will be someone out to get you , bait you , and you keep reacting with irritation. But the thumb rule is that as soon as you become immune to it, they lose their hold on you. It is an energy hold and you have given your power away. As is the case with anything that succeeds in controlling / overpowering you.

The awareness you need each minute is to conserve your energy, stay within your space and use your intellect with wisdom. Emotions too, IF you are able to use them intelligently. But, keep your aura intact. At all times.

Surekha Kothari

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Counselling

 

Personal Desires

 Who doesn’t want to be happy? But the definitions of happiness are many. And many of those are linked with personal desires for some kind of gain. None of such paths lead to happiness in the long run and short term feelings of happiness can turn into a lot of disappointment.

It is amazing that we fail to grasp the subtleties of a happy state of mind because ironically, at some point, all of us HAVE been in that space, when tears of happiness flow, when a simple hug from a child made us feel complete. And so many more precious moments that we choose to forget in our chase for something “better”.

As is a popular saying, stop chasing the butterfly. Just stand still and the butterfly will come and perch on your shoulder. Give happiness a chance! In silence and non-attachment, it can come out of nowhere! A state of mind that we will not want to let go of because it is so beautiful!

Surekha Kothari

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Acceptability

 I am fascinated by the way people describe themselves vis a vis the way people look at them.

I think I am a realist but people think I am an idealist. I think am rational for the most part but people see me as irrational in many ways.

I think I am caring as a person but people brand me as indifferent, callous even.

You know what I am getting at, right? This is not only me but everyone I am speaking of.

How you see yourself and how people see you are two different angles.

How do you arrive at a consensus then, so that you create a win situation? That you are seen as somewhat congenial or antiseptic to grow into a community or take a path of “I really know who i am and I don’t need people to slot me”.

Most of us have tried to become the alchemist to blend our values into an acceptable whole for the sake of sheer acceptability. After all, we do live amongst people, all kinds of people with different perceptions, different sizes of baggage and different energies.

And yet, this is not easy! You will always end up upsetting some balance one way or another. 

Practically speaking therefore, you can only do what is within your power: have good intentions, be unaffected by other energies and carry on with life, knowing that the only controls you can exercise over are on yourself. And wisdom is the key. 

As for the rest … c’est la vie!

Surekha Kothari

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