Truth

 Why have we arrived at a stage when we hate truthful people? The whole social wheel accepts “sweet lies”, pandering to egos, and people pleasing.

Of course, people pleasing again bans any truth. Some of us can dish it out but are unable to take it. We do not like looking at any dark corners within ourselves; we just want to point out those of others.

It could be conflicts where one is generally responsible for starting them but retaliations pile up to camouflage the intrinsic core of the truth.

Masks, false smiles, saying nice things about each other but talking the opposite behind! No courage there!

Where is the truth in all this? There is a real dearth of real and truthful people because it takes great courage to speak your truth. Because if you do, you definitely stand isolated. However white you may be in the eyes of God, society can paint you black on account of your speech.

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Inner World

 In every nook and corner, there are people indulging in judging and gossip and this is directly proportionate to the insecurities and complexes they carry.

Education, satsang, spiritual studies also don’t help. Basically, even kindness and compassion belongs more in the camp of empaths. As long as we are nowhere near conscious, aware people, we cannot become empaths and there is the block right there.

People would relish advising you without even knowing your side of the story.

Typical! There is a power there: of thinking they know enough to counsel even with a somewhat polluted heart.

It is incredible! Seems like God never gave us an inner world to tackle at all. It’s all about putting others on a weighing scale.

Sometimes, I think someone must do a PhD on this topic.

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Silence

 Holding your head high tells people that you are the lead character of your own story. Confidence is liberating from external Validation. Walk tall and create your own space. Don’t shrink into someone else’s world.

Respect starts with you. Don’t give energy to anything negative. People will test your boundaries, try to judge you and control you even, and fail to see your worth. Or it may not suit them to see your worth so, they would try to push you down.

Silence to any external negative stimulus is the apt response. Silence in thought and silence of any reaction.

Owning your own life is the biggest step forward.  Let everything come from within and grow on your own elevating benchmark every day, based on your own increasing wisdom. Learning and growth are products of personal experiences. No one can live your life for you, however supportive they may be.

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Compassion

 You can either look at someone and choose to find it in your heart to blame or criticize. OR, you can use compassion to understand the behavior. But let’s remember that this is the reaction of your mind which is already programmed in a certain way.

It is really a fact that if you suffer, you suffer alone. People might sympathize superficially but to feel someone’s pain is not an attribute with people.

Hence, the recommendation to understand that isolation from people is creating space for God within your energy.

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Confidence

 The web of relationships is intricate and before you know it, your inner peace begins to depend on external validation. Seeking approval to cultivate your own identity becomes vital to your well-being.

Ground your sense of self-worth in your own values, not in the opinion of others. This does not mean you let go of relationships. It only means you respect who you are and your faith in yourself does not get shaken each time someone chooses to disrespect you. Your value for yourself comes from within you.

And external validation also gives others power over you. You need to reclaim that power and keep it with yourself.

Are you living in alignment with your own values and principles? If you are, that is all the confidence you need. All the validation you need.

Your life will get stuck if you don’t actually walk the path. Life will always have challenges but if truth be told, if you take charge of your life, you will be surprised how much you can achieve.

We are so much more than our minds and intellect, our ego and our sub conscious. That one consciousness that watches our lives as witness consciousness is what we need to satisfy. It is the weighing scale that balances us if we are aware of it. Many aren’t, unfortunately.

Living a life replete with self-created toxicity and negativity will just amount to a wasted life where we could have become brilliant versions of ourselves but got stuck in a quagmire in which we became so comfortable that we never thought we should extricate ourselves to find ownership of ourselves.

Overcome your own person rather than someone else, which comes out of thinking others are better. Not true. Self-doubt is a big culprit.

No one really cares as much as you think they do. They are busy dealing with their own challenges, their negativities.

Think! How much have you feared the criticism and judgement of others and have tried to fit into a mould someone else created for you!  

When will you have the courage to pursue something meaningful just for yourself?

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Karmic Cycle

 It is a blessing if we can handle the last phases of our lives with important learning. Life teaches us but we don’t learn or it takes us a long time to learn. But learn we must.

The reason why Vanaprasth and sanyas are advocated is because entering these phases with inquiry enables us to work on the control of our desires . It is desires that remain within our subtle bodies and which return with our next birth through the causal bodies.

To detach is difficult when so much attachment has piled up due to ignorance. To unlearn all of that and to relearn new lessons of surrender to the divine and not to human relationships is not easy at all.

So, after a certain age, during the last phases of this life, it becomes imperative to gradually detach from the causes and effects cycle, and become conscious of the time, space and causation which keeps us coming back here again and again.

Being aware of your karmic cycle is extremely important. Most of our lives are tied to this cycle.

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Growth

 A daily, mindful search for answers can be really worthwhile in your life. And I mean a spiritual search for the truth.

Of course, acceptance of what you cannot change is one aspect of life. But living a depressed life is no answer. We have a higher self, an alter ego so to speak, within us which has a completely different vision of who we are and should be if we are not.

To tap into it, perhaps we need to rise above all environmental influences and all of our own mental aberrations. Also important is getting to your own truth, untainted by what others think about you. Every judgement is shallow and not to be entertained. No one has the complete knowledge or experience of you more than yourself. And even then, we are vast and so much is yet unrevealed. So why deplete your own power and sense of worth?

Every bit is work only on the self. Nothing more, nothing else. And your answers come from within once you have gotten over the phases of anger, denial and bargaining with the self.

It is just like when you are in darkness and out of the blue, a light shines and illuminates everything. 

Meanwhile, keep letting go. Don’t hold on to anything that hampers your growth.

The last few moments of breath before life ends are the most crucial. We have to work towards a clean and detached mind without any pining for any aspect of life, or clutching on.

LET GO!  And keep letting go every minute.

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