I have realized that to be critical of
yourself and hard on yourself can turn out to be a huge punishment in your
future life and can really alter the quality of your life. To feel guilty,
remorseful is human up to a point. But all your life ? Even to kick yourself
for not doing things in a different way and looking at an undesirable outcome
can really psyche you into believing you are inadequate or foolish or whatever
tag you want to give yourself. Before others do it, you are doing it to
yourself.
It makes no difference though. When the
arrow leaves the bow, it will pierce something somewhere. Remember the story of
Shravan kumar ? The king was innocent but had to bear the consequences of
hitting the wrong target.
We do this very often out of our ignorance
or misguided ness even. But having said that, what next is the moot question.
How are we going to deal with a situation which was not in our control ? Or we
thought it was but..... it has happened in a certain way. That is the reality.
This is the point at which wisdom comes in.
Life has never been black and white. The shades of grey are what make you move
through life. Solutions have to be found for our own well being . And if we
have to bear consequences, we have to simply bear them.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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