Thursday, 28 December 2023
Wednesday, 27 December 2023
Tuesday, 26 December 2023
Rejuvenate
Humankind has desensitized itself
in a big way, in order to survive . It is time to reverse this condition, in
the wake of so much avoidable stress and misery.
Apart from the natural disasters
and unexpected happenings in our lives, we are also bringing misery to each
other. Mind you, we are not escaping it either! We are all a part and parcel of
each other, living within the same space, breathing the same air, having the same
emotions…. Whatever we ARE doing is therefore, coming back to each one of us.
Just as we come together during
natural calamities to help each other, conditions today are as bad as a
calamity … and WE are responsible.
So, now, the onus is ours to
clean up our acts and help the universe to get back into its original nature.
We have vitiated the world enough , haven’t we ?
We need to throw out
unceremoniously, everything that is against the will of God. And we know what
these ingredients are. What is left is to acknowledge our roles in the
pollution today and refashion our roles to rise and make this world a better
place.
Restore! Rejuvenate! Respect!
Become sensitive to even a pin
drop. We need to!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Sunday, 24 December 2023
Forgiveness
Please don’t hate family and don’t practice enmity either. There is a karmic reason for being together. There may be unfinished business from other lives that needs healing. That is why we have been given a chance by the universe to be related by blood. Healing is what we must do, not by distancing but with love and forgiveness.
There is always goodness in
everyone. We just fail to connect with it , both in ourselves AND in others. If
there was no goodness, we would not be connecting with anyone.
When we put friends above family,
we forget that those very friends have issues with their own families. Then why
do we find it in our hearts to shun family and make “friends” outside?
Growing up, we had our siblings
and cousins as friends. Today, there are distances. Very unfortunate that our
egos are more separatist today !
Let us try and rethink our
relationships, especially with regard to where we have failed in wisdom.
Because where there is love and forgiveness, there is always wisdom.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 20 December 2023
Tuesday, 19 December 2023
Fear of Failure
It is said that humans don’t use
more than 5 percent of their brains. But, I wonder if we even use our full potential!
Do we give ourselves the opportunity of exploring what is within us….?? And we
are vast! There is so much talent and capability within us!
And yet, instead of becoming
adventurous enough to attempt new activities, we look at others and find
ourselves lacking in that spirit which others might have.
Fear rules us for one. The fear
of failure! Well, by failing, we learn. With failure, we better ourselves. With
failure, we change our ways when something does not work.
Moreover, the emotions inherent
within failure are also closely related to “what will people say if I fail!”
Losing face! This is a big deterrent and such a futile one! Yes, it is possible
that you might be discussed but when you actually succeed, how many are really
happy for you? Right? Success and failure are YOURS! Nothing to do with anyone else!
We have one life to learn from
And make the most of! Take a
chance with life!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Sunday, 17 December 2023
Tuesday, 12 December 2023
Fact of Life
In our generation, parents were
parents first. The friendship angle came only after enough and more respect and
obedience were given to them. Defying them and their teachings were a tad
difficult and often, impossible. But we grew up just fine, in fact, with an
enquiring but aware mind which assessed the value systems we were taught and
found them to aid the human touch that makes us human beings of some calibre.
With the onset of insular
families, parents gradually started feeling the need to compensate for the lack
of senior members of the family that were distanced. So, they felt the need to
become friends.
Naturally, all formality had to
be dispensed and conversation had to be tweaked to suggest a reduction of the
age gap. Simultaneously then, the respect between child and parent also
reduced. And soon, parents found their wisdom falling on deaf ears.
There is nothing black or white
in life. But, this informality and right to be friends removes a very essential
barrier between the teachers and the taught. All filters are removed and
children unknowingly start to disrespect the wisdom of their parents,
sometimes, even teachers. Consequentially, the conflict between the two
increases and becomes a fact of life.
Of course, there is love. How can
there not be? But it recedes into the background in the wake of such conflicts
that arise from egos and the inability to re-introduce the boundary lines which
have been blurred considerably and crossed many times.
I think the quest to teach
generations the old Indian model of relationships based on love and respect
must made a reality in no uncertain terms. That environment itself has been
missing since a very long time. And the concept of “independence” is now based
on the all-consuming right to deny / disobey all advice that is not palatable
even if it is wise.
How do you infuse the right blend
of respect and friendship? The right and effective balance for a harmonious
family life?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Sunday, 10 December 2023
Universe
We need to have a fair sense of
right and wrong which applies universally, irrespective of our relationships.
It starts first with each one of
us. And when we apply it to ourselves, then we don’t need to look at others.
Being blind and forgoing this sense of right and wrong when it comes to
People we love is our own
pollution of the mind.
Don’t let yourself off the hook
for anything you have done wrong. Use fair play and you will find yourself
becoming confident in your righteousness.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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