Friday, 7 December 2018
Wednesday, 5 December 2018
Tuesday, 4 December 2018
Encouragement
How many things in life can we laugh about?
How many things do we take in our stride? And how many times do we get
affected?
If you can laugh about things which hurt
earlier, then you are more evolved because such people are lighter in energy and
a little detached as well.
If you are taking things in your stride,
then you have learnt to balance your emotions out. And you have learnt when and
where to use them.
And if you get affected by things, then you
have not learnt your lessons well. It is always in the moment of imbalance that
we are dominated by our emotions. You are still too dependent on what is
outside of you. And the external is not always dependable whereas you are
looking for support and encouragement from there only. Shoulders may be taken
away. Rugs can be pulled from under your feet.
In all this, you can only depend on
yourself and your wisdom in living, dealing with people and situations. Just like
no one can attend school as a proxy for you to attain the knowledge, no one can
improve your life but yourself.
Men may come and men may go,
But "I" go on forever.
So, if "I" go on forever, where
lies the need to lean on an impermanent, destructible world?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 3 December 2018
Sunday, 2 December 2018
Intelligence
Why do we go into sometimes uncalled for
and sometimes unnatural behavioral patterns? Especially with certain people?
And you tell yourself that you don't know where these patterns came from. But
they have to have come from somewhere.
I find that old memories are the most
common triggers.
Your old negative experiences about these
people create an adverse reaction and even if you see them after a long time,
you still assume that those old habits of that person would still be existing
as you had experienced before and been thoroughly disenchanted with at the
time.
Assumptions can be very real and dangerous
at times. Because you haven't given another chance and may be completely wrong
and start something like a chain of causes and effects you never should have.
Or never dreamt you would.
It is therefore, a good idea to forgive and
erase those memories.
You would be human to ask, how many chances
should one take and be given in any particular case of being burnt with past
experiences. The reply lies with you and how intelligently you can handle the
same people again, this time without labeling them black and by giving them and
yourself another chance at creating a new equation.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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