Evolution

 Sometimes, I wonder why we just block our own evolution with wrong thinking patterns. Most of us do know when we are wrong. And despite the knowing, we act contrary to our knowledge that we are wrong.

It is better to stand weather conditions and stand tall and upright, like a tree. But we choose to be limp bushes that can be destroyed with a mild gust of wind. A weakness of spine ought not to be developed.

We cloak our minds with a lot of lies because it becomes a survival technique. We get away with it so, guilt becomes a very small price to pay. We acquire a license, so to say, to walk around with this cloak. And soon, it becomes a somewhat permanent skin.

It is important to be very vigilant to retain our original self at all times. A second and third skin of this kind can be extremely uncomfortable in the long run. And even if you get used to it, there will be self-doubt, restlessness and anxiety. Not worth it.

Surekha Kothari

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Emotion

 

Tears are like irrigation for the heart. We are always told to control our feelings, not to get emotional or teary, that it is a sign of weakness!

Somewhere, if we believe this, we are suppressing ourselves and not accepting ourselves because we have been told time and time again that it is a weakness. And who wants to be perceived as “weak”?

If a demonstration of emotions is weakness, why have we been given them in the first place? All our chakras are related to emotions and elements. Suppression leads to blockages. But we still carry on in our ignorant mindsets, believing that to be emotional is to lose control. In case if excesses, yes! Otherwise, they are a part of what makes us human, unlike robots!

Ironically, an effort is being made to trigger emotions in robots now! It is very interesting to see that we think humans are limited, so, we create “superior” robots. And then, we try to make them “human” by making them like humans!

The world is a crazy place! We never accept God’s perfect creation. We think we know better!

Surekha Kothari

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Simplicity

 

Simplicity is not a weakness. It is strength, especially in modern times because it requires honesty and courage to be simple. Not only that, polluted minds feel threatened because courage is high vibration which has a different energy.

The advantage of being simple is a free mind, a mind that can engage in creativity instead of worrying about trivial matters. Life is a gift and we need to use it well.

Surekha Kothari

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Love consistent

If you are able to return love for indifference, you have made it in life. The most difficult thing to do strangers doesn’t really come into this category. The hurt happens only when you face indifference from those who matter to you.

The important thing to know is that, many a time, the indifference you see may be a put on for concealing hurt. You may not know this if you find an accomplished actor opposite you. But even if you miss that, your policy of giving love consistently should make you peaceful and content from your side.

Surekha Kothari

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Nature of happiness

What is the nature of happiness? Someone called it an idea the other day and I was intrigued. It was quite a thought. Is it merely an idea then? So, does one make a difference between being happy and feeling happy? Are they the same thing or not?

If happiness is an idea, then it disappears if and when the idea disappears. If I feel happy, feelings can be transient and that status can therefore, change anytime.

Being happy seems to be a longer lasting concept. The “being” happy is a state of being that is not dependent on external factors. You just ARE happy. No one and nothing was responsible for that state of happiness. Evidently then, it comes from within. And that is the coveted state which all humans search for but in the wrong way.

If happiness were on sale, people would buy it in a heartbeat. But if they were offered just being happy, for no reason, the price would be too heavy to pay because it requires some difficult measures that might spill over to many lives.

Surekha Kothari

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Acceptance

I have found that things just happen even if you don’t interfere with your personal desires and efforts. Something will happen in your life. But people are not willing to take this for an answer. “But what about what I want ? And what if things don’t happen that way ?”

We tend to push away things that might have happened had we let them happen. Just by looking the other way.

The soul is here to interact with this world for the relevant experiences. So often, we say, “my heart is not in it anymore “. But after so many years of pursuing an activity ? Why now ? Because the soul is satisfied and wants to move on but we don’t want to let go. To make our peace with the fact that something is over and something else is coming up that we need to go through. The cognisance is lacking when the soul connection is weak. So, the answer is :

Accept. Accept. Accept. Don’t expect , expect and keep on expecting. Believe me, some amazing things start to happen at that stage if acceptance because acceptance is a way of surrendering.

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Time to rejoice

As women, we pass through many stages before coming into our own space and being comfortable in it. Our strength lies often in being silent when we want to scream. Our strength lies in smiling when we want to bawl our eyes out. Our strength lies in pretending we didn’t see the hatred in someone’s eyes and being pleasant no matter what. Our strength lies in loving our children whether that love is returned or not. In fact, there are many relationships that we hold close because we feel the emotions.

Gradually, we begin to learn from our different reactions to different episodes in our life , until one day, we realize that we have emerged stronger and are able to smile where we cried, hug those who we know could do without us , love those who we know are never going to care as much as we do, forgive those we have hurt us and also forgive ourselves for the hurt we have wittingly or unwittingly caused others.

And we women become stronger and stronger as we start depending on ourselves instead of always looking for crutches. We learn to deal with situations independently a time to rejoice.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

Living for you is no art. It comes naturally to people. Self interest is usually top priority amidst all the external banter. We have become masters of banter. I must get what I want at any cost, is the usual philosophy of life.

But the fact is, we can't survive happily like this. To quote Sadguru once again, and I seem to be doing this a lot lately, we must learn to look at things as they are. Like, we call a tree "wood". Like we call a human being a "body" the moment death occurs.

We forget that Prana is in trees too. They breathe. They live. The same oxygen connects us. Imagine if that oxygen was taken away from us ! We would not survive. Amazing how we wear blinkers. At least horses are made to wear them. We wear them ourselves very conveniently.

We are facing severe consequences on the constant onslaught on nature and everything connected, including humans, and will continue to do so until the price for our foolishness is paid. Like someone cutting the very branch he is sitting on. Aren't we doing pretty much the same?

Surekha Kothari

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Educational Institution

At some stage, you realize that life is to be lived like a game. That's why they say, sports builds up character. This now winning no, now losing syndrome has to bring in the ability to take both in your stride. Isn't it?

And that's what we go through in life, now being successful and now, not much. As a young girl, I asked Mr. Vijay Merchant to write in my autograph book. And he wrote:

"It is not about how you win or lose

It is how you play the game".

And this always stayed in my mind. Truly, it is how each one of us chooses to conduct our lives that are the single most important thing. There may have been several pitfalls looking back, but you also see how you handled those and how much you learnt along the way and how far you have come. And nothing is a waste of time. Life is the largest educational Institution. You can give exams as many times as you want but hopefully, each time, the preparation will be better and better.

Surekha Kothari

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Comfort zone

No man is an island and everyone needs someone. In good times and bad times, a good support system makes life easier and more soul friendly. You don't need many around you. But one should be like three; that caring that desirous of being there for you, as you must be for them as well.

Innocent and sincere friendships are heartwarming. When you see an evidence, your smile also is genuine and your heart happy.

When I hear people say, "but I care so much " in words more than action, this spells a lack of spontaneity , maybe a kind of getting stuck in a comfort zone and not willing to walk the extra miles. Whatever else the reason!

A support group of friends and family is a total necessity at any time.

Surekha Kothari

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