Thursday, 2 February 2023
Wednesday, 1 February 2023
The Acts of Benevolence
How
fickle are we if we change every moment, being good with good people and nasty
and petty with those whose reactions and behavior towards us is unacceptable to
us! Generally, because we WANT love and caring but are too weak to give in
return what we are looking for. It should not make us feel good when others are
criticized. Because it does not mean that WE are accepted. And we won’t be,
until we look within and accept who we are.
Like it
is said… you can dish it out but you can’t take it! On a deeper level, this
really damages us. No one else is affected adversely but us. We are unable to
bear ourselves when we bare ourselves to ourselves. There is something to be
said about being steady and not retaliatory. Like the sun always shines despite
the clouds. And the light always illuminates darkness, not worrying about the
quality of darkness.
The
worst human aberration is expectations. If i want to be a free spirit, why do I
want to tie others down with MY expectations? Double standards! And if I don’t
know the stories of other people’s lives, what right do I have to judge at all?
There
is one more aberration that of taking advantage of people’s goodness. The
reason why the human race started doing this is because it lost its simplicity
and its spirituality. What went out was trust, with every act of selfishness.
And here we do, not know what lies behind the smile and the acts of
benevolence.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree
Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 30 January 2023
Thursday, 26 January 2023
Expectations
It is
all about expectations. We feel “comfortable” around certain people because
somehow, they don’t threaten our self-image. We accept only such people.
If you analyze
why some others are kept at bay by you, or criticise or pick on, you will learn
a lot about yourself.
The
moment you reflect on your thoughts, you will get the link within yourself. It
is never outside of you. Keep reflecting and cleaning up as you go along. This
is the only way to growth.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree
Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 20 January 2023
Compassion
Compassion is possible because we
are all mirroring each other. I can feel your hurt because I have been there or
close to that feeling myself. I also need to understand that reactions to the
same event can be different in different people. And suffering is on different
levels of intensity and ability to cope.
And yet, why do we start judging
instead of understanding when it is impossible to get into anyone else’s shoes
? I have realised that when we judge others, we have forgotten to be kind to
ourselves ! Or compassionate for that matter. Yes, sounds paradoxical ! But not
really so.
When we are not comfortable in
our own skins , we don’t want to accept our selves , especially our darker
areas. So, in order to feel good, however temporarily, it is easier to point a
finger outwards for the same weaknesses we may also carry. Because we always
attract similar people who mirror our weaknesses. Through them, the universe is
teaching us to accept those areas within us, heal and move on in our journey.
All we need is the realisation
that we are all imperfect and the journey is about our own learning and
healing. Not about judging others . Let them look after their own journey.
It is not our business to treat
anyone as small or inferior . This is where kindness / compassion come in. If
you must , help people who are struggling to heal, instead if maligning them
and throwing brickbats. And shunning them. Human weaknesses are not contagious
diseases . So, Our censure makes US inferior people because our lower self is
at work at this time. WHY are WE intolerant of someone else ?
We need to ask ourselves this
question which may lead to a can of worms within ourselves that we are afraid to
open.
Compassion and kindness,
therefore, need a much deeper understanding.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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