Demonstration

 

Love is not defined by demonstration.  And it does not diminish even if the people we love grow to become critical of us. It is indeed a quality which does not rely on the approval of or being accepted by someone. There will always be double standards in love: one , what they feel for someone and the other, the non understanding of what others feel for them.

We are too limited as individuals to put ourselves in the place of another . We need overt endorsements all the time. Also, I guess we are too preoccupied with our own story and what WE want. This is precisely why wise people have said that love is its own reward and expectations in love will definitely cause disappointment. Because love can become holy only if a relationship works on mutual grounds. Love is giving from both sides. And always, not sporadically. Otherwise, we love because we love, and leave it at that.

The most relevant examples are mother daughter, husband wife, two friends… the mother loves her child to distraction but the child moves away when it grows up. A couple may have differences and love may become scarce. The same goes for friends. Actually, WE are limited by our tendencies to judge, reject, hate, even be cruel , misunderstand, ridicule the weaknesses in another which we might be suffering from, too… because we don’t want to or can’t heal ourselves. We want to continue this way.

But these are the attitudes that later deepen and become manifested ailments . We know of many such cases, but we have this funny conviction that this will not happen to us. Many clients that I see have such deep issues but I find people block their minds when you try and speak to them about this. They want to continue this self damaging battle . Love in this world is weaker than hate and fear.

This is a part and parcel of kalyug. And accepting this is the only solution to bring peace in our lives , because, we are leaving this world alone, not in groups , so that their endorsement should be that important for us to damage ourselves and our journey.

Blessing everyone is the way to go because an aware human being knows that everyone is suffering. Otherwise , they would have more love in their hearts.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Quality of a soul

 God created humans as a motley crowd , each different and unique, with the same physical and mental software around the soul.

But that’s where it ends and creativity begins, a result of the ominous and multi pronged will power and free will.

Often, I marvel at the way minds are wired, including mine. Unless you are a mind reader or become one, the depth and complexities of each mind are sometimes deeper than the ocean and impossible to fathom. So, you revert back to yourself.

Let me atleast try to understand myself with my vast body of past lives and all the triggers that make me think and behave in a certain way.

No! What you see is certainly not who we are. We fight for equality that does not exist. So naive of us ! All mankind is not and can never be on the same level. Even equality of opportunity will always have loopholes for the very same reasons.

So, where does that leave us then ? We are left with ourselves, to look within ourselves and find that uniqueness that renders us flawless as spirits or souls if you will, beyond our physical persona.

The quality of a soul is essentially pure in every human being. The skill is in keeping our own mind body temple as clean as our souls are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why then are we so preoccupied with watching others and trying to fathom their journeys and what makes them tick, when we are still so unaware of what makes US tick ? Is that in any concrete way helpful to us ? The answer is “no”.

So many of us who are trying to evolve as humans must remember this. We often hit the bottom of the river of life but if we know the art of floating, we can come up, breathe and float again, each time with more skill and more awareness so as not to drown. No one can do this for us, can they ?

So, to keep peddling the boat to guide it to its destination via the best route , becomes a personal responsibility . This is where the genius in human creativity comes into the forefront and carries us through.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Truth

 If you speak your truth sincerely, you will always be at peace, no matter how others feel about it. We are always so other oriented that we would rather not speak our truth out of fear that people may not understand it.

I feel you ultimately gravitate towards people who give you the respect due to you for speaking the truth and vice versa.

Can there be another way ? Being a people pleaser does nothing except harm us at the end of the day. We alter our personalities to suit others , some of who may not even be in our lives permanently.

The reason why we don’t stand united is not because we are different but because our truths are different and not acceptable to others.

It is a little unreasonable to expect people to understand where you are coming from , when you don’t do the same. When we decide to love someone, we often turn a blind eye but when we don’t like someone, we don’t miss a chance of criticising their truth.

I feel this is because we are not confident or courageous enough of paying the price for speaking our truth. Because, there is always a price for everything. And so, we would rather others pay it. But life does not work that way.

Acceptance burns the uneasy space between people and allows for a clear level playing field. So, accept and love . They do go together. Life becomes simple when you are simple and know what to let go of and what to retain, what to internalise and what to leave out there. It is an ongoing process.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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