What
do I gain or lose is a prime question in relationships today. It often takes a
long time for people to understand people, even if they have lived in close
proximity. In fact, especially when they have lived in close proximity, whatever
the name of the relationship. Either the understanding is lacking or the
population around makes minced meat of the equation, In ANY relationship.
So
much wear and tear happens within our emotions and expectations that we don't
see a lot of things with clarity. And, ultimately, we start feeling that we are
gaining only headaches and depressions and losing our health and peace of mind.
And then the inevitable happens...distances.
One
of the big challenges is when there is a communication cripple confronting you
who is impossible and too complicated to read unless you are a clairvoyant… And
YOU are intrinsically a demonstrative and spontaneous person who subsequently ,
is forced to start closing up and getting all bottled up because their words
are hitting a wall and coming back to hit them. It is an unnerving feeling and
one that closes channels like nothing else does.
Under no circumstances can shrink or
twisting personalities against your will contribute to your well being. So, the
cognizance of gains and losses may be replaced by the questions of how meeting
points may be arrived at, if both can will this as the course of action, of
course. Between the two sides of the distance pole lies the meeting point and
the way towards reducing that distance starts with the capturing of the
mischievous little devil called " ego" and blindness towards those
who are mischief makers because, after all, you love them, don't you ?
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
